Would it be considered cheating if I sought advice from another man (via e-mail) off Yahoo! Answers?

I have posted a lot of questions in the Marriage %26amp; Divorce section of Yahoo! Answers. Sometimes some of the men have really good advice and/or can relate to my situation. One in particular told me to e-mail him anytime if I wanted more advice or if I wanted to blow off some steam. Would that be considered cheating? I haven't accepted his offer, but I wanted to see what other people thought about it.Would it be considered cheating if I sought advice from another man (via e-mail) off Yahoo! Answers?
If your partner knows about you emailing this new internet friend then your fine. Cheating starts as a violation of trust. So long as your up front about this new friend then your fine.Would it be considered cheating if I sought advice from another man (via e-mail) off Yahoo! Answers?
I wouldn't say it was cheating, but how would you feel if it was reversed and you found emails from a stranger in your partners inbox......maybe best to stick to yahoo answers and save any awkward scenarios......
Well, what would you do if you found out that your hubby was emailing somebody about your problems? You'd probably freak.


And, more importantly, this kind of venting leads to feelings. You're mad or hurt and here is this super nice guy that tells you that you're worth something and it makes you feel good. This is the kind of junk that leads to an emotional affair. It then makes you even more bitter towards your spouse and feel closer to the 3rd party. Be careful!!!


I'd steer clear if I were you. Go ahead and post questions, but leave it at that. You don't want to get caught up in something, it'll make things worse! Good luck!
It's not cheating. However, he probably offered because he would like to get with you . . . .





Funny how those things start.
umm no, but honestly things are better kept within a relationship than telling others your dirty secrets. No one likes a blabber mouth.
Consider it FREE therapy if it helped. Would you not go see a therapist if they happen to be a man? Would you not go to the doctor just because the doctor was a man? I think not. Therefore, its not cheating.
I don't consider that cheating, but would your husband? That is the only opinion that really matters. If you are having marriage problems, they won't get fixed unless you talk to him. Talking to someone else may give you some perspective, and probably make you feel better for the moment, but it won't help if you aren't talking to your husband.


Plus if you are having issues in your marriage, I say why do anything that could lead to temptation. If you aren't happy, it makes it all the easier to cross boundaries.....








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It sounds like you have a good plan. Why tempt fate? It's like a Pandora's box sometimes.
emailing someone is not cheating...you are simply using his advice to better your situation. He might know more than you and had more experiences in his lifetime. Sounds like you just need to talk to someone and he is willing to help. It is considered ';cheating'; if you go beyond that and start talking naughty to each other or meeting this person and going on dates
It IS cheating if you orgasm from it.
Changemelord, No you have never met. Needing a place to vent is fine. Just don';t get swept away !
It is not consider cheating only if you are talking to him for advise but once it goes pass advice and friendly conversation then its cheating.
Sharing intimate, personal information and becoming emotionally open to another man is cheating...unless it's a therapist.


Would you be pleased if you husband talked about you behind your back to some woman and discussed your boobs, your moods, your periods, your attitude? I think not.
Speaking from experience, I would really be careful it could cause more harm than good. I have been married for over 10 years and my husband's bestfriend's girlfriend would confide in him regarding his bestfriend. It got to the point where she was getting so comfortable that she would call his cell phone (not our home phone) in the wee hours of the night or wanting him to meet with her for lunch so that they could talk. Luckily he confided in me regarding this situation because he felt uncomfortable so of course I had to intervene...Be careful and handle yourself accordingly... The advice that I gave her was to talk to her man because he was the only one who could fix the problem that she was having. Its okay to get the advice of what others may do in a situation. Find out what's going on with your man and if you still continue to have problems they need to consider other alternatives... Word to the wise from my own experience and many others I have come in contact with this type of thing almost always lead to other things that you may not have been looking for in the begining whether it be you or the person you seeking advice from start to have feelings...
The only thing I would watch is some might be giving advice to lure you in and get closer to you.
I think it's perfectly fine to talk to other guys even though u r in a relationship. Just make sure you contain the flirting part of talking to other men. Yahoo Answers is perfect for advice! There's nothing wrong with it. But emailing him is okay too, just make sure it doenst go further then JUST emailing for advice.
It's not cheating, at least in the physical aspect. As long as you can set and maintain boundaries for the frequency and intimacy of the information you are sharing, you should be okay.
It doesn't sound like cheating...he's giving you advise about your marriage. It sounds more like friendly counseling....
Yes, it is an emotional affair! Would you want your husband e-mailing some woman behind your back and talking about you?
No, that's not cheating. Cheating would be if you two started talking about sex with each other, flirting, making plans to meet, etc. It's okay to have male friends (online or off) and discuss personal issues, but be careful how personal things get between the two of you.





If you wouldn't want your partner to do it, then don't do it yourself. Stick to that rule and you'll probably not cross any lines of impropriety.
My view is...I do not do ANYTHING that I would not like my husband to do. If I would be ok with him emailing some woman offline to discuss our relationship...then it would be okay for me to email some man...make sense? Or how about this...would it be something you would hide from him(husband/boyfriend)...if so better not do it.
I dont think so...sounds more like a friendship....i mean all you are doing is talking w/ him like you would a friend!
Of course it wouldn't, its not like your blowing him off is it.
Nope, it's nice to hear a guy's point of view...Now if he's doing this for an ulterior motive, you'll figure it out once you start emailing back and forth. No worries.
If you're marriage is already on the rocks, don't make it worse by soliciting one on one help. While you may know it is innocent, you also know your husband wouldn't want you chatting online with other men, especially when it gets more personal than yahoo answers. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you like it? Also, online affairs start somewhere - why not here?
Hahha no.





A) Even if it was, who would find out?


B) Emailing someone is not a crime...





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if within your heart you know its gonna possibly lead to more, leave it alone. If you play with fire, you will get burnt. Plus, you're endangering someone else (advice offerer) of getting emotionally tied to you. You don't need that, if you're already asking for advice.





Just be careful.
no
Looks like you found a good solution to your question all on your own. I agree with your conclusion. =-)
i dont think its cheating at all getting someone else perspective regardless if its a man or woman to help your relationship is perfectly acceptable
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No, because advice is different than flirting or sex. And you need advice, now and then. Who doesn't?


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