Wedding Advice - Best Man not attending Rehearsal?

Is it bad that my best man can't make my wedding rehearsal?





I am getting married in April.





My best man (actually I have 2 best men - both of my brothers)...and one of them can't make the rehearsal.





He's going into the fire department, and last test he took for one of the cities in our area he did not pass. So that night there is a 'mock' test at one of our local colleges in order for the college to help the students find out what areas they are weak in and how to improve. They are only running this once (supposedly) and he was lucky enough to get on the list for this test.





Over the last 5-10 yrs, my brother and my relationship has been a bit rocky at times. We have usually been super close growing up (minus the usual brother/sibling rivalry) but over the time he's always put his friends more important, and every time he just meets a girl he puts her first always and it's like our family is way last..even if they just met.





Anyhow..I could go into more detail on the way he is when it comes to his friends..and how we/I feel neglected etc etc...but that's another topic.





Thanks a lot guys!Wedding Advice - Best Man not attending Rehearsal?
Even though you guys have been rocky he's still your brother. Be the bigger person and support him in his quest to find a job (especially in firefighting, that's a difficult career to get into these days). If in your heart you know he would be there supporting you during the rehersal and will be there supporting you at the wedding you need to support him. It's unfortunate that he cannot make it but hey, at least your brother is healthy and able to attend your wedding. Take advantage of the time you can share with both of your brothers because there are way too many people who take their siblings for granted.Wedding Advice - Best Man not attending Rehearsal?
I think it will be ok. Truthfully, he does not have a difficult part to play. And the other best man will know whats going on, so he can just follow what he does. If this best man (the one not attending) is sopposed to the hold the rings or something, just make sure to run through the order of events in detail with him. Otherwise, he just walks in with the other guys, stands there, and walks out with a girl.
So long as someone tells him where to stand and what to do the day of the wedding, don't worry about it.


Stressing out won't do you any good.
as long as you walk him through what he needs to do during the ceremony (which should be pretty easy), and he makes your big day, it shouldn't be a big deal that he miss the rehearsal. it doesn't sound like he's doing this out of neglect, and it he could, i'm sure he would be there. it may seem like a huge deal right now, but really, the most important thing is your wedding. the rehearsal is just the rehearsal.
I think you should be glad hes your best man and that I think you should support him, its just a dinner and means nothing, he will be at the wedding thats whats important.
Isn't this why you are having two bestmen? Really? Sounds like all along you were afraid that he may flake out and not show up so you arranged for a back up. Smart man, your fears are being realized.
One of our groomsmen was not able to come to the rehearsal. He had a problem at work (it came up at the last minute). We just filled him in on the things that he needed to know.





Don't make too much out of this. It is just the rehearsal. It isn't the actual wedding.