Please advice? Infidel man at work ruins my job?

There's this guy at my new workplace married with 2 newborn kids.


I'm in now way whatsoever interested in him.


Few days back he confessed feelings for me (I'm his assistant - we've been working together for 1 month only).


I'm grossed out and feel very uncomfortable working near him so i decided to disappear as i feel management will not believe me. I'm the newbie + I'm very young.


There is no way i can avoid this guy at work if i went back - the office is too small.


Can anyone offer me advice?


If anyone experienced this, will you share with me? i feel terrible.Please advice? Infidel man at work ruins my job?
I'm confused, you said you decided to disappear, then you said there's no way to avoid him at work if you went back- so did you quit or are you still employed there?





If you ';disappeared';, meaning, you just walked off.... you need to clear the air with this person. Look him in the eye and tell him that you need to keep things professional between the two of you, and that you have no interest in a personal relationship. Be firm, and look him in the eye. You're young, but don't act young- this is a crucial conversation. Another thing: since this guy is clearly unprofessional in his interactions, don't give him additional reason to fantasize about you - keep your cleavage covered and wear your skirts knee-length. No, I'm not saying that clothes give a man a reason to harass you, but when you're dealing with someone who goes outside of normal boundaries, you have to equip yourself with all the tools for success possible, methods to protect yourself, your reputation, and your body from being objectified.





If the inappropriate actions persist, go to management. And write everything down- when he did this- write down the dates. Also write down when you told him that the conduct was unwelcome. Sexual harassment is against the law, and when you tell him that you want things to be kept professional, it's a clear statement that tells him what is appropriate, and what is harassment. If he crosses that line, he is harassing you. Keep a journal at your home of what occurs, so if the problem persists, you can go to management - and FYI- if they don't conduct an internal investigation, I'm sure you could sue their pants off, just call your local Legal Aid.





Or, if confronting him is too much, you could quit. However, you may find yourself in a situation like this again in the future. You said you're young, so you have a long career in front of you. And if you see yourself climbing the corporate ladder, then there will be lots of crucial conversations ahead. Please advice? Infidel man at work ruins my job?
Do Not do anything until you speak to his boss.





They will not fire you, believe me.





You are young, probably make next to nothing and have already started training and investing in your future.





You DO NOT know what they already know about this guy, so let them know he has harrassed you, it is illegal, and if they do nothing, or fire you, you have a good lawsuit on your hands!!
Since you plan to leave anyway, if I were you I would still let management know, what they do with the information is up to them. But it would be a good idea to atleast give them a chance to deal with it. This guy shouldn't be able to get away with doing that to you!
you just tell the guy that he's gross and you'll kick him between the legs if you have to.





tell him his breath stinks and you want to talk to his wife today about that.
Get a tape recorder, tape everything he says and let upper management hear it. They will have no choice but to believe you.
You should go to the boss or to the manager. You are being sexually harassed.
Tell him your going to file a harassment case after his butt. That you will let his wife know too. Maybe it will scare him good luck!
New job. If asked why you just left this job, say the truth....marired man who was above you wanted sex with me and you left. They will understand.
get rich take a tape recorder and record what he says and take it to court and sue the company for sexual harrassment
Exlax. If he poops himself in front of you he will avoid you forever.
are you aware that infidel means unreligious? what does his personal beliefs have to do with you at work in an office?
Tell him to respect his wife and kids! If he's any bit human, maybe the guilt will eat at him!
is there a boss above him? would you be able 2 acuse him of sexual harrasment?
get a new job.


this sounds horrible.
if he's rich you should have just gave him some of your twat
If you do decide to go back, (if you think the job is worth it, and if you're not in physical danger from the guy) talk to the Human Resources department right away. Let them know exactly what you said here; that your co-worker has made a statement which makes you very uncomfortable. It's not to make them believe you, it's to make sure there's something on record. That way if they guy ever does this to somebody else, they'll be able to see that there's a pattern of behavior.





If this is one of those good ol' boy networks where nothing is ever done for a woman who complains about a male co-worker, then leave for good. It's just not worth it, and there are better jobs out there.
He is a real piece of work, I think he is probably older than you and because of your being new on the job he thinks he can say or do whatever he wants to you and you don't have any recourse.


HE is wrong, you go to the human resources department and tell them , he may have been reported before, how can he have feelings for you if you have only been on the job for 1 month. If you like the job and want to stay there then report him, if human resources doesn't do anything for you, you can report him to the labor relations board. I hate to see a man with 2 new babies loose his job but if he is that much of a cad then he brought it on himself.


Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Title VII applies to employers with 15 or more employees,