OMG i need advice this man is got me crazy!?

i meet this guy alittle over a month ago through a mutual friend. we talked and went on a date really hit it off...we started kinda quick and heavy both of us thinking long term...well after a night of drinking i ended up messing around with(not sleeping with just other stuff) with our mutual friend. he considered it cheating and moved onto another girl within two days. he is still seein her a month later but we still talk. he still was callin me about every few days or so and texting me til this last week. i think about him every day all day..i miss him so much he is the greatest guy ever everything i have always wanted in my soul mate. i cant seem to move on and let it go and the guilt that i messed up is more than i can bare. well last night i sent him a text just to say hi...we did the usual small talk and i had to ask how things were with the girl..he said hes never been happier (just fyi..hes 32 been married to his high school sweet heart for 14yrs they just got divorced he has three kids and im 28 with three kids as well so no middle school drama here)





anyways, after we talked via text last night about his new relationship and how upset i was but i accepted that it was over ad wished him well i thought i finally had closure and was ok with how it ended. THEN, i wake up to a text from him at 5:30 this morning asking me a bizarre random question it said: i was reading through our messages and wondered why you thought i was moving in with her...my first thought at this was...wtf? he text me a random question like that at 5 in the morning after we layed closure to it all and a subject matter that is not significant to anything...3 hrs later were still texting back and forth about us..about how maybe our paths will cross again and he is just a normal guy nothing special..blah blah blah...i am more confused now than i ever have been in my life...he is NOT the type to play me or string me along..and actually had apologized if he had mislead me before. why in the world did he text me at 5 in the morning with such a random off the wall question and then continue talkin about us for 3hrs? i have not seen him since we were seein each other so he isnt using me in anyways...there was no generic hows it goin friendly text...it was just another round of talkin about when we were together and how things might have been or might be someday....i miss him so much and i want another chance with him so bad...does he still have feelings for me? why did he do that..i was ok with the closure i had gotten last night, why did he strike it back up if he is truly happywith the other girl and why continue to call me and stuff and talk for an hour or two this whole time...im so confused...please helpOMG i need advice this man is got me crazy!?
You need to be concise, this is too long and it requires too much effort on my part to read it in its entirety. So eat a sh!t waffle.OMG i need advice this man is got me crazy!?
Try summarizing the story next time
Move on, block his number and stop acting like a middle school kid.
The man doesn't have you crazy.





The fact that you are a crazy person is what is making you crazy
I think you both want eachother back. Firstly for him to have been going through all your txts means he was thinking about you and wanted to remember all the good txts and times you shared.


He probably just got with the other girl either as rebound or to make you jealous.


You gotta prove to him that he can trust you because even if you dont consider it as cheating, he did and you have to respect that if you want him back. You gotta show him why you were so good together. Dont get angry or needy, just be you. Actions speak louder than words so you gotta show him how much he means to you and how much he can trust you.





Its gonna take time. goodluck :)


xx
get off his jock. maybe it wasn't meant to be, he obv wasn't the greatest guy ever or you would still be together.


theres alot more other men out there. find one that your kids like too.
funny, you say he's not the type to play you or string you along but that is exactly what he's doing. he's with someone else yet he's doing what he can to keep you on the hook in case things don't work out with her.





stop taking his texts and calls and just go on and get on with your life. It's starting to sound like he did you a favor by breaking up with you when he did.





FWIW: unless the two of you were exclusive when you made out with the other guy then he had no business expecting you to be faithful to him at that stage of your relationship and he broke up w/ you too soon--but I can understand him having questions about your drinking and your lack of judgment when you are drinking. (you seemed to blow the make out session off as not being serious because you were drunk. we all do stupid stuff when we're drunk and our inhibitions are lowered but we are still responsible for our actions and once you're well past legal drinking age, blaming your behavior on intoxication is a bad sign that you aren't in control of your alcohol consumption.)





BUT if the two of you were an exclusive couple when you fooled around with the other guy, he's right, it was cheating and he was correct to break up with you because you showed him either you are not a faithful person or you may have a drinking problem and lack good judgment when you over indulge and are not to be trusted when you drink.





this relationship wasn't going to work out in the long term. call it a day and move on.
You should just let this dude alone. He obviously has something with the other woman, and you don't want to get involved in a messed up triangle thing. If he's the right guy, he will be the right guy later, but right now is not the time because he's got someone else in his life.