Confused Man needs advice?

I had an affair with my employee who is 11 years younger. I am in-love with my employee %26amp; I love my wife just not in love. Broke off affair with employee after 5 months, felt I owed my wife counseling just to know if it is really over. Employee having a hard time letting go she is crushed. In my perfect world I would be w employee laying on a beach somewhere but I am still un-happily married. Trying to do the right thing,need advice.....no children involved dated wife 6 yrs married 2Confused Man needs advice?
Okay sometime marriges don't work so if thats the case and divorce is an option for you then do it before you get caught cheating! It will be worse on you. If you want to be with your employee then do it. Make yourself happy, Yes you should have waited until things were done with the wife than the start something with someone else. As for your employee being crushed im sure she knew you were married. So she should get over it cause to be honest with you if i were her i wouldnt be with you because you cheated on your wife with her what would make you think she wouldn't think you would cheat on her. But hey some people can deal with that maybe shes one who can.Confused Man needs advice?
You say you are in love with the other woman. Lust is not love. Love is stronger than lust.You have had an affair. You owe it to your wife to tell her. Let her decide how she feels. Good luck.
no matter what guilt you feel in this marriage..if you don't love your wife and your in love w/ your wife and there are no children involved then the easy answer is to leave your wife. you must have another reason for still being there...and this must be because deep down inside you still love your wife..cuz if u didn't...then why are you not w/ the person that your are in love with if there are no children involved? and i fyou love the other person...and not your wife...then why are you risking losing her to make it work w/ your wife that you claim you don't love? doesn't make sense.
Instead of cheating, if you are for sure that you cant be happy with your marriage, then end it. Ive been on the side of being cheated on and it takes true love and deep dedication to make i work after and affair. And if your a manager sleeping with an employee, i hope she still isnt working for you, because if she gets pissed off then your done! and if enough other employees find out your done!
i wouldnt mess around with an employee. I feel its always a bad idea. look where it got you. I do wish you luck.
first of all, make sure this isn't just a fling... because it seems like you've known your wife for so long, and that employee of yours is a decade younger than yourself. but if it 's just cause she's younger and you're just in a phase where you're just sick of seeing your wife day to day, then i would say hang on. but if you can prove to yourself that it's true love with that employee i would have you sit down and talk to your wife. maybe you two are better off as just friends. but remember this will hurt her greatly. remember since you're married, you should know that you need to take full responsibility as a husband. [which in your case you weren't doing since you had an affair] make it fair for your wife. if you're going to end up cheating on her again, leave her alone and let her live a better life, or do what a husband should do and maybe you'll find that spark again [like go on a date or an amusement park together or something like back in the day] i personally think it's bad to divorce, but since no children are involved, i guess the matter is not as serious. [but is still very serious]





anyways, for advice, i would have a good talk with the employee, and confirm to yourself that after divorcing and possibly marrying this employee that you won't go finding another employee to have an affair with. then i would have a long talk with the wife, and possibly have the three of your have a conference sort of thing.
Since this marriage isnt working out and hasnt been working out, you might want to separate, but not divorce yet. What I mean is, you go to another place to sleep and you and your wife dont communicate for a little to see if this relationships means that much to you.





But if nothing sparks, then you two should get a divorce. Flings often happen within married relationships, but it could just be a phase.
Your lover employee has a question in here to . Did you tell your wife about her ? Or are you a little sniveling coward ? In your case you haven't been doing the right thing from the beginning of your affair a little late for that. Divorce comes before affair .





Either that or your board and have nothing to do but put bogus questions in answers. Just seems odd your questions match so well
You will never fix your relationship by going outside of it. That is your first mistake. Thank goodness there are no children involved because you would be putting them in harm's way emotionally. If you are unwilling to work through your marriage, file for divorce. However, I doubt it will work out with the employee. You are just infatuated and men are easily flattered with a woman who pays attention to them. Give it 6 years with the employee. Let's see how much in love you are still with her by then.