Why Do men cheat?......Need a Man's Advice?

My fiancee has this little habit of messaging girls on myspace telling them that they are cute and that they should go to dinner and he gives them his cell phone number, i have caught him four times messaging these girls none of them have taken him up on his offer when i asked him about it he says he would never cheat on me and that he just does it to get a reaction out of them but if that was the case then why would he try to hide it from me? At first it didnt bother me but now it really does he tells me that i cant flirt with guys but he is allowed to give girls his phone number and ask them out to dinner? So i dont know what to do he says he would never cheat on me and that he loves me sooo much and that he is crazy about me but then why is he talking to other girls and dont say its cause we dont have sex cause we do alot like three or four times a dayWhy Do men cheat?......Need a Man's Advice?
Oh, I like you. You are dumb.





All guys like to look and think. Your guy is cheating you already.





And you thought it was cute. I bet the other girls do too!





He is lying to you. Just because he is doing you 3 or 4 times a day doesn't mean he can't fit one or two more in without any problem. If you don't believe me test him. Get some Saturday and tell him you need him. and see how many tmes he will do it that day. Bet it is a lot more than 3 or 4.





BCWhy Do men cheat?......Need a Man's Advice?
you agreed to marry this guy? i think you should take the side of all the girls he is hitting on..and gracefully decline. people cheat for alot of reasons - unhappiness in the current relationship, greed, they have someone that lets them because they dont want to believe it, and selfishness. You chose a cheater - be happy with it or leave.
men can be a little dumb...my bf was texting another girl 4 a while. I told him simply 'Her or Me?' You need to lay down the rules. I see it that anything you are uncomfitable with that makes you unhappy YOU shouldnt stand for! Ans if he loves you he will do the right thing. :)
He likes the challenge. He doesn't care about your feelings. He should not be your fiancee or your boyfriend. 4 times already? I hope you don;t plan on marrying him.


Maybe we can talk about it over dinner. My number is . . . . .just kidding.
He cant control his sexual urges. You give it to him 3-4 times a day and it still isn't enough. There's something disordered in that boy. It will not turn out well for you if you stay with him.
If he is doing the BEFORE you get married, what do you think he'll be doing AFTER you tie the knot?





Get out. Now.
And *you're* going to be a f*cking rocket scientist and MARRY this asshole?





sex 4 times a day, huh?





he's a Two-Pump Chump to boot?








dear god.








Are you REALLY this stupid?








Is ANYONE?
If you're ';doing it'; 3-4 times a day and he's still handing out his cell number to girls on MySpace he's either cheating on you or will cheat soon. If I were you I'd tell him either he stops flirting online or I'm leaving.
This is not specific to your question, but men cheat for the same reason women cheat. You do not have to limit your research to men.
Sorry but RUN, dont walk away from this relationship RUN.


He is not flirting he is trying to go out on a date while he is engaged to you.
He just likes the attention! Ditch em! If he really loves you he wouldnt do things that he knows bother you!
He's looking to bang those girls. Move on. He will never be faithful.


Get checked out for venereal disease and go find a real man. Not a boy.
because they don't realize what they have to loose waiting for them at home.
wow... he's a real winner huh... any guy who can't hide the fact that he's cheating should be dumped.
Dump this guy. What he is doing is not ok and it will blossom into full blown cheating.
You still have a chance to leave this relationship. You're not legally bind to this person. If you stayed, it would be your choice. No one's making you marry him.





****You really don't need to show off to us about your sex life to convince us that your fiance is not cheating.





From your question, you are obviously uncomfortable and perhaps a bit (a lot) annoyed with his ';chatting.'; Although, he said that he's just baiting them, but WHY??? Why does he need to get his kicks this way?





Will you be able to live with this juvenile behavior AFTER you're married? Will you be able to put up with his chatting when the sex is no longer three or four times a day?





Will HE be able to stop?
I hate to tell you this, but what your boyfriend is doing IS cheating. He's not doing this for fun to get these women's reaction, he's doing it to find someone to have an affair with. Deep down, you know this.





Guys like to blame their girlfriend/wife and make up the excuse, I cheated on her because I wasn't getting any sex at home. Bull! Cheating rarely has anything to do with needing more sex. Some men, no matter how good they have got it at home, can never keep their pants zipped.





They love the thrill of the hunt, succeeding in getting a woman in bed, and the high they get from sneaking around and getting away with cheating. It's an ego thing. Some men are just so arrogant that they believe that no matter how pretty and good the woman is that they have, there is always a better one around the corner and they don't want to miss out on getting a piece of it.





Cheaters will always lie and tell you what ever they think you want to hear to keep you around and so they can keep on doing what they are doing. They are selfish and they are in this world to get what ever they can for themselves.





You think he loves and cares about you? He wouldn't be doing this if he did. Don't you see? This is just a game for him and he's playing you.





Stop letting your heart do your thinking for you. Go with your gut feeling. If you don't like what your boyfriend is doing, then put your foot down and tell him if he truly wants to be with you, then this has to stop. If he refuses to stop or he agrees to not do it anymore, but continues to do it behind your back. Then you have to take off your blinders and get the strength to walk out and never look back.





I have been in your shoes and believe me when I say, this is only the beginning. Next he will start going into those online chat rooms and do his flirting with all the women. Then he'll want more excitement and go into private rooms with these women and have cyber sex with them. Of course when you catch him in the act he'll tell you it's not cheating. It's no different then what guys do when they look at a porn magazines.





I could go on and on. But the bottom line is. Sooner or later, he will meet up with one of these women in person and have sex with them. Save your self a lot of pain and heart ache and leave now before things get really bad.
If he's doing anything that annoys you this much, then out of respect to you, he should quit. Otherwise, I'd definitely call off this marriage completely, or until he goes through some counseling. Things are only going to get worse after marriage. You should be the only woman in his life that he invites for dinner, etc. He can have other female friends, but he shouldn't be spraying dinner invitations and his cell phone number all over.





How do you know none have taken him up on it? Just because he says so? Do you know how to contact these women he's invited out? You should work with one of them to take him up on it and see how he reacts, and to see if he somehow makes himself available for their date.





I think you'll get a real insight on the man you're planning to marry.
Tell him you have been flirting with this very hot guy on Yahoo friends, and the guy knows your in a relationship but said he is only doing it for fun and wants to meet for dinner this week end. Tell him you told him you were going to meet him but your really going to stand him up. Make sure this dinner date is at a time your fiancee will not be able to be there. If he gets mad then you will know his true feelings on the subject of his flirting with other women too. One thing I have seen is most cheaters get very jealous and really think your are cheating as well. You can later tell him you were making it all up just to show him how bad it hurts. But I would really think this over if I was you as if he is that way before marriage it will be much worse after marriage, not better.
Pixiegirl, I am really sorry to hear you are in this position. I am near the end of a bad 15 year marriage, the last 5 of which wear dead and lonely because they lacked any real connection or respect from my wife. No one ';strayed';, but thats the only good think I can say. Flat out he does not respect you and this is only a small taste of what will come after you are married. Imagine when you have children and he decides these other girls seem interesting, he will stray. Any man with a fiancee who loves him, respects him, and has sex 3-4 times per day should be very thankful for what he has. You should be thankful he is showing you this now, because at a minimum he is a jerk, more than likely he is a cheating jerk. I know it will be painful, but you need to move on. If you ';catch him'; doing this, imagine all the times he is doing this or worse behind your back. The behavior is inexcusable and is only a sign of things to come if you stay.
i had the same problem as you execept my boyfriend wasnt asking the girls to dinner as far as i know... but he had them leaving questionale comments and he was an online flirt. when i told him it made me uncomfortable seeing what i consider flirting online...he deleted his myspace and facebook right away. i didnt tell him to delete his whole page. he said it wasnt worth having them if it was making him risk loosing me. that he could care less about any other female. he says he had no idea the girls were being inapproprate but now that i brought it up he sees where i am coming from. im giving u this example because i believe my bf really loves me (we are not engaged yet). it doesnt sound like your man is willing to do whatever it takes to put ur happieness at the top of his list. i have been with guys like that too so watch out. if he is ur finace he sould take all of your concerns extremely seriously. u deserve nothing but the best. so expect it.