Involved with a married man......need advice?

im involved with a married man he says he still loves his wife but yet he still wants to be with me he comes to see me every chance he gets and lies to his wife about it i want to be with him too we care a lot about each other a lot i dont know weather to stay with him or break it off i need help if you have any advice plz let me know we both love each other very much im just all confusedInvolved with a married man......need advice?
Trust me. You need to find a way to not want this man. He is someone elses wife. He says he loves his wife. If love cheating on her? Is loving you going home to his wife? He is being unfaithful and you are allowing him to use you to do it. He doesn't deserve your love or your body. If he did leave his wife and decide to be with you how could you ever trust him? You couldn't. Life is way to short to waste time on this kind of thing. Find someone that is worthy! Good luck!Involved with a married man......need advice?
you aren't confused. you know exactly what you are.
Break it off with him. Obviously, he loves his wife and will never leave her. Your confusing lust with love.
Look forward 5 years. Where do you see your self in 5 years if you stay with this arrangement? Do you like what you see? If not, get out. Do it on friendly terms. You are happy with what you have recieved up to this point. It has been fun. Now it is time to go our separate ways. Let's agree to get back in touch in a few years and see how we each are doing. Have a nice life. Good bye.





If you like being the woman on the side and that is all you want out of life, then continue as you are now.





Does his wife know about you? Are you sure? Ask him to introduce the two of you. May the two of you will become friends and she will be okay with sharing the one man and the three of you can have an arrangement. Each of you can have sex with either of the other two or all three together. You all can live lives as you do now but you can also add this group component layered on top. Each of you enter into a legal arrangement or contract. You as a close family friend with certain assigned rights that are similar to those between a husband and wife. More people are doing this today, I understand. Heard about this trend on the radio yesterday afternoon.





Maybe you all can be friends and live as inimate friends for life.
my husband cheated on me with another woman and it hurt . remember this , u are doing this to another woman. what you do to her will be done to you by some one else.then you will know how much it really hurts. dont be a part of breaking someone's heart , life , marriage and home. you dont want that on your plate
leave him alone even if he doesn't want to be with his wife anymore.let him divorce her first.
It's only so nice because you isn't your man. You get to do all the fun stuff with him. End it now before his wife finds out and makes you pay. Besides, if he's cheating on his wife with you, why won't he cheat on you? I mean, he says he loves his wife but he still cheats!
lemme see...hmmm....so he admited that he lies to his wife about being with you...so dont that make him a liar? then why do you trust him with his word? he's a liar. a cheat. and because he's getting away with it, he'll continue to be...if he cheated on her, then he'll cheat on you..and lie about it.





you may love him or so you think, but is he telling the truth when he says he loves you? after all he is a liar and his word has little if no value.
how old are you? can you see that he is using you for his sexual pleasure? why would you want to get mess up in something like that for, young lady? He only care enough to sleep with you and that is all that he care about. That is why he is not willing to leave his wife for you. wake up and leave his cheating butt! Stop and think about, what if this is your boyfriend/husband is cheating on you with another woman. what will you do? be mad at the woman who knows he is married or your boyfriend/husband? so, what are you going to do?
So, he's a liar and a cheater (according to your own post) and flat out tells you he loves his wife...you do not love yourself, it seems. If you did, you would want a man who could be devoted to you, not accept the leftover scraps from another family. While you're home alone pining for this man, he's at home, enjoying his wife and family. Even if his feelings fro you are genuine, don't you think you deserve someone to come home to, who is all yours? Don't you want the kind of relationship where you can go to the park, to local restaurants, etc and just spend time together without having to be lying at every turn? He's thrilled he has someone to be naughty with, and as others have said, once the wife finds out, it's all over--
HE'S USING YOU FOR SEX!!!!!!!!!!





Get that through your head. Oh, it's full of his bs lines like ';I'm leaving her for you one day'; or '; I';m still there cause of the kids'; or '; She's not mentally stable; I can't do that right now.';





Moron
Stop now as he is lying to you and his wife. He has the best of both worlds- a girlfriend and his wife to take care of his home. What do you get but a part time boyfriend that can not be trusted.
You may love him, but I'm betting he loves banging you more than anything else. Why are you involved in this, even if he left his wife, you would have what? a cheater, and eventualy he would do it to you. Wakey wakey
You said that he loves his wife.He lives with her.He is NOT going to leave her for you.Get out now.Stop playing this game.This man is using you and you are just too blind to see it.Wake up lady.
They have a few names for women like you. Like HOME WREAKER. the others I won't say . But I will say this. How dare you date a married man.. Thats just wrong. Wrong of him in the most part but wrong of you as well. You need to a a real women and call it off.. And I hate to break it to you but you don't love him you don't even love your self if you have to date a married man. You just want something somebody has... Find your own man thats unmarried and has no girl friend.. And he does not love you he is a married man who is getting his thrills on having 2 women. Both of which he lies to . he is having his cake and eating it too. What a loser..
He's using you. If he is a liar to his wife, how can you be sure he's not a liar to you?





You have no future with him, except to be his mistress. You deserve much better. Have some self respect and move on!
One word...punctuation. You should try that sometime instead of someone else's husband.
Face it. He is not going to leave his wife for you. You need to find yourself a man who isn't already taken.


Don't be a home-wrecker. You wouldn't want some woman to come along right when you think you are happy in your marriage to come in and reck your home. -Remember, what comes around goes around.
If this is what you're calling ';love'; then you don't know the meaning of the word. Love has to do with self-sacrifice; genuinely caring about the other person, including his honor; commitment; honesty; and much more. What you feel is lust, yearning, longing, and/or infatuation. It's not love. Your confusion comes from telling yourself that these girlish feelings are love. Once you realize that this is not even close to the powerful and bright thing that love really is, your options will become much clearer.
STAY WITH HIM. IT IS HIS WIFE FAULT. SHE DOESN'T DESERVE HIM. DON'T LISTEN TO THEM
well he will always be with his wife and you will always be the other woman I would let him go for now but keep the possibilities open for the future
i know this hurts but you need to break it off. This isn't a healthy relationship always sneaking around and hunny he's married how would you feel if you were the wife in this situation. They always say they will leave her well dont be fooled. do the right thing in time your heart will heal. find someone else who is single and go for it then you wont have to be so precausious. find a love that is yours and only yours have a commitment with someone who loves you and wont cheat on you and you can't cheat on them. the bible says not to. pray about it and someone else will come along. i am sure of that. dont worry


-hope i helped
Here we go again, the ole having the cake and eating it too story.


Get rid of him.


1. Hes married


2. He said he still loves his wife


3. He lie's to his wife, he would be lieing to you.


4. He's never going to leave his wife, its never going to


happen.


5. Isnt your own self respect and worth, worth more....





Find a man who isnt married and can give you himself freely and totally.
its not healthy for you! it wont go anywhere! you cant call him your man 'cos he isnt! its bad for your self esteem which is already damaged to get you in this situation in the first place! You cant trust him, he's not mature emotionally and he doesnt have strong integrity.


Integrity is being honest and faithful and decent to your life partner, he isnt doing this.


I saw a married man briefly and ended it by telling him, ok go back to your marriage and try to make it work and if not call me in a year.


He called me in less than a year and I told him 'if nothings changed why are you calling me?' - he still called 6 months later but you know...hes still with her and I'm having nothing to do with that bees nest!


The guy was hotter than georgia asphalt! French, could be a model and his wife was 10 years older than he....that was his bed he made, his mess not mine...


It hurt it was hard as I was lonely and lustfull but it was the right decision.


Why would I screw over another woman? Women have enough problems with men than each other being the enemy too!


End it! Join a dating agency, go online, get out there and over this character!
You have three choices.. (1) keep sleeping with him behind his wife's back (2) He leaves his wife and you two move on together (3) You invite his wife into your relationship and all three of you get in on the action ... ha
He doesn't care any more about you than he wold any other whore. He has no intentions of leaving his wife, and he is using you. YOU have a choice, either go on allowing the man to use you as his whore or grow a back bone, get some morals and values as well as self respect and leave him. He doesn't love anymore than he loves the sh it he flushes down his toilet at home.
i was in the same situation as you. he told me he loved me too blah blah, that he wasnt even sleeping in the same bed as his wife, and all sorts of lies. came to find out his wife was 5 months pregnant. i know its hard bc you care about him, but let him go. he will never leave his wife.
If his wife were to find out about you, I promise you this- HE will dump you immediately. What does that tell you?





Don't you think you deserve to be first place in a Man's life? I bet you are worth that much. Why are you allowing yourself to be second place???





I do not understand this!
Let me see if I understand you correctly. He's a LIER. He's USING you and his wife. He's obviously CONNIVING. A man lacking INTEGRITY. A man with no MORALS. ADULTERER....etc. But .... you love him !!!! LMAO .... GET A FRIEND TO GIVE YOU A SLAP IN THE HEAD BECAUSE YOU NEED ONE!!!!!!
He hasn't left his wife for you so that tells you that you are a plaything. He will not leave his wife, for what. Why buy the cow when the milk is free.You are nothing to him and if you did get him he'll make a fool of you soon as the next hot panties walk by. You'll be just taking a problem off his wife's hands. Just think of this, his wife probably trying to get rid of the nogood bum anyway. Help her out. Then you can sit up all night and wonder what hot panties he's chasing.
you have to have him make a choice, he can't keep using you like this