Saturday, July 31, 2010

What do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?

There is a guy who was after me for the last one month.He told me many times he is in love with me and i fall in love with him too.He is acting funny with me lately,he tells me recently that he is very busy with work and all the crappy stories of him being busy.If he is not interested in me anymore i think it would be more respectable for both of us if he told me Im not interested in you and I would stop calling him.The sad part is that he is not straight forward and he keeps ignoring my calls and says he is loaded with work which I think is bs.I think he is not truthfull because nothing has changed his work and i know that.I love him so much now but i never wanted our relationship to reach to this stage.I thought if me and him never end up together atleast we could be good friends and if what im thinking is true then i think that wont be happening as well because i wouldnt want to be a friend with a jerk.Do you think i should stop calling him? And he told me lately to stop the drama which i don't really understand.Anyways would like to know what is the best advice you could give me regarding the man?





Thanks alotWhat do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Definitely don't call him anymore. This shows self respect. Sounds to me like he probably has another lady friend and hasn't told you. If he told you to stop the drama, then he's over it. You can't control the situation, so even if it hurts, show your self respect and let him be. If he does like you in some way, friends or other, you will see him come back around faster if you leave him alone now. Men are like rubber bands, women are like waves. (quote from Men are from Mars, Woman are from Venus). When a man separates himself for space issues, the sooner you leave him alone, the sooner he comes back. The further you push him not respecting his quest for space, the longer it takes for him to come back around.What do you think of this man?pls advice urgent?
Stop calling him. He's making it painfully obvious that he doesn't want to pursue anything at this time, so don't keep pushing the issue. He seems like an insincere man, to be telling you he loves you and then suddenly backing off like this. Sounds to me like you might not have been the only girl he was saying all that to.
i think his goal was to get you and once he got you it was no fun it's like he was playing a game and men they like to achieve things and once the schieve thing they move on to the next challange so b4 he moves on i say you beat him to the punch and move on k
It should be clear to you that he's not interested anymore. If he was, he would make time for you. Stop calling him and find someone who actually cares about you and wants to spend time with you. If you don't you'll just be making a fool of yourself.
Hot in a relationship you are doing two things in the relationship. One is you are contributing or contaminating. It sounds to me like there is some contamination going on here from him. Don't settle for anything less that what you are giving.
Try meeting a new guy, then if he acts jealous then you know he still likes you. You don't have to be more than friends with the new guy but if the person you love cares for you it will be enough to make him realise that you feel uncared for.
It's only been a month and you're not even actually together and you're in love with this guy? PLEASE get some counseling. And stop calling him. Just take the hints.
Leave him before he tells u it is over.There are many men better than him.
Sounds like he was leading you on from the start..


Dont waste your time on him!
Men HATE being ignored...it will be hard but you have to do it. You will know after a few days what's going on... If he can't ';man-up'; move on
Stop calling him. Sounds like he's been leading you on.
I don't think that he cares about you, if he did, he would've at least warn you that he'll be busy at work and therefore he would've needed some space from you and he'll make sure you won't think anything negative about him. If he loved you, he wouldn't ignore your call or at least he would've returned your call if he got missed calls from you,he'll put some efforts into it.But that's only IF he loved you and cared about you. I'd say don't waste your time for him
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  • In need of a smart man's advice?

    i need to know if this is wrong.. i like this guy a lot and im sure he likes me too.. but i dont think he is right for me so im going to listen to my brain and try to ignore my emotions... but of course its hard to control emotions. we have been flirty friends/classmates for almost a year now. so is it wrong if i continue to show a little interest in this guy by flirting and giving him attention but still leaving him puzzled about if i actually like him more than a friend. i dont want to get rid of him. as much as i want to be with him, i wont. i have a lot of self control. so am i allowed to show some interest as opposed to none. im not showing enough interest to want to be with him. i try to make it as casual as possible. for example, on facebook me, him, and some other classmates are discussing some stuff in a message board. and he randomly asks if any of us want to go on a trip with him next week and i know that question is aimed towards me. so what do i say? i do want to go of course but im not going to. i dont want to ignore the question so can i show some interest by saying ';sounds fun, who all is going';? even though im not going. help please. i dont want to lead him on or hurt him.


    p.s. i do have classes with him next semester.In need of a smart man's advice?
    That's good that you are going with what you think rather than let your emotions get a hold of you. Not a lot of people can do that.





    Anyways, if you do not want him to be any more than a boyfriend, then just treat him like any other friend. Don't flirt constantly with him, that's leading him on just for him to fall on his face. There is no easier way to hurt a guy than by leading them on.





    So just talk to him like a friend. Make sure he knows that you just want to be friends. Don't flirt all the time.





    Good luck. Hope I helped.


    ~Nick

    CANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?

    okay i've been seeing this guy that my friend hooked me up with for a month now.Everything started out soo good. He was taking me out to lunch just about evryday and we would stay together at night.. almost everynight at that.. he would call and text me throughout the day and tell me how much he likes me and wants me to stay with him once he gets this new apartment..well now things are starting to change.he doesnt call or text as much as he used to nor do we stay together anymore like we used to either... so i called him a few times to see why he's been bluffing me like crazy for the last week and a half he just says hes sorry and really acts like he cares a little . but then still continues not to call or anything anymore.. but heres the icing on the cake i seen him thursday night while i was at my friends house and he was on my heels so hard and we ending up staying together that night everything was sweet.. when he dropped me off the next morning he told me he was gonna call me guess what.... HE DIDN'T,, so saturday night rolls around and im out on the town with my homegirls its about 4 am and we pull into this gas station not too far from my house and guess who i see.... ole boy in the car with another byotch.. i cursed him out and then pulled off.. i was soo pissed but most importantly it hurt me deeply cause i fell for him soo quickly and i normally dont do that.. SOMEONE ...ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME ... SHOULD I JUST SAY F*@K HIM OR WHAT IDK... I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT HIM!!!!!!!CANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
    the exact same thing happened to me i am sag. he is virgo. my dear find yourself a decent man. virgo men have a severe fear of commitment. most of them remains bachelors. they will use you for as long as you allow them to. they are very cold. if he calls you tell him you have found someone else and have moved on even if it isnt so, then put his number on the reject list. if you continue to see him he will hurt you continously. good luck.CANCER WOMAN...Confused about virgo man!!! (mature advice only lol)?
    If you really have cancer you don't need a jerk like that around.


    Kick him to the curb!
    idk get a hobby

    In love with a dieing man... need advice plz?

    My story begins almost 3 months ago when i met a man online who i was convinced was my soul mate. We shared the same interests, the attraction we had towards each other was too strong to ignore and we acted on them.later on i felt he was pushing me away,so i did go away only to find him again and then we hit it off immediately. we took it to the next level we wud spend hrs just talking.We discussed a lot of future plans that now haunt me and hurt so much, he told me he loved me and promised to never leave me..time passed by and i felt i was in heaven, it was then when he told me that he will have to break his promise.. and that he is suffering from a brain tumor.. he told me to leave him coz he doesnt want to c me get hurt, we cried all nite over the fon and i told him i wanted to b with him but he refused. I do respect his wishes but i needed some advice if anyone has gone thru the same situation.. i am really torn and confused, i cant sleep or eat or do anything but think of him :(In love with a dieing man... need advice plz?
    awww i'm so sorry....





    It's like that age old question... Is it better to of loved and lost then never to of loved at all....





    What you do is up to you but you bascially have two options...





    You could cut ties off with him completely... it may save yourself heartache, but is it fair on him...?





    You could just be there for him... if you really love him then surely you would want to spend all the thim you have left together...





    I'm so sorry and i hope things work out for you...

    Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?

    My girlfriend just broke up with me. We both really really like each other but she didn't have enough time to spend with me because of a working 40 hours a week on top of senior year. It's hard for me to let her go because I'm crazy about her but it was her decision and I'm not going to get mad at her about it and ruin what we still have.





    But I was talking to my grandpa about it today. He said I should 'still put my bid in'. Meaning if that's the only reason why we broke up and I'm still crazy about her and she still likes me, go for it again and try to win her back. But should I go for this? If I do, how would I do it? How would I convince her?





    Thank you so very much.Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
    If she was truthful about her reasons for breaking up with you, then yes, there should still be a chance, and I would have to say that her reason is a noble one. I don't know about trying to convince her that she should be with you though. I think it would be enough to maintain a strong enough presence in her life so that she can see that breaking up with you probably wasn't the best decision. Good luck!





    Should I take the old man's advice? Or move on?
    What you have going for you is that she is a full time student with a full time job and cant possibly have time for another guy. You can take your grandfather's advice - but remember - she still isnt going to have time for a relationship - so how much time do you really expect to spend with her - and is that enough for you - and is she going to be able to handle all of this without any sleep . . .
    I think gramps is right. If you like her this much then go for it. lifes too short as it is. Tell her that you know she doesnt have allot of time right now but you still like her and are willing to wait for her if she will just take you back. This should totally work. But dont say anything that you dont mean. It sounds like you two have something special. I wouldnt let it get go without a fight.
    So you dont wanna do anything about it but your grampa tells you to... well um I would...actually i dont know im stumped lol... Dont just let it slide away from you. But dont force it back either...

    Im developing a crush on this man need advice?

    I go to this place every day to eat with my child and there is this guy there that is a cook and host and I started to develop a crush on him I heard he has a child as well while he was talking on his cell phone basically I need some advice I thought about juss writing my phone number and putting it in his pocket and being forward but I don't know I would like to get to know him more but I don't know if he has a woman or if he even would like me plus he may not be viewed attractive in most peoples eyes.. how can I let him know how im feeling we are both adults so its not like its a 5th grade crush need some advice thanksIm developing a crush on this man need advice?
    I wouldn't slip your number into his pocket. That's more for a one night stand. You should smile at him, say ';hi'; when you pass, let him know that your lunch was great, etc. Anything that allows you to be friendly and flirty. He will start to notice you and give you personal service. When he starts to notice you two, ask him if he has worked there long or how he likes the job. Just some small talk or chit chat. As you become more comfortable with him and get the vibe that he looks forward to seeing you, ask him to join you and your child for lunch or to sit for awhile. It may work. Good luck

    I need a mature man's advice...?

    I ran into a guy I worked with ten years ago in highschool. He looked incredible so I was shy and did not approach him. He came up to me at the table some girlfriends and I were sitting at. He stayed there and talked to me for awhile and sat down for a bit. Throughout the night he came back and forth to our table and his. He asked me if the cell number he had in his phone was still good and I said no that it was a very old number, and asked him if he wanted my updated number. He said yes and I gave it to him. My question is that, I was interested in him and could not tell if he was interested in me. All night I caught him looking at me and when he did we would smile at each other. The problem is that I NEVER see him out this was very rare, and I am hoping that he will call me...he and I are both in our late 20s. I just wanted to get some opinions from other guys, cause I'm curious.


    Thanks


    PS- It's been a few days and he hasn't called. Should I just give up on him?I need a mature man's advice...?
    I think he is interested. And he should know you are interested since you volunteered your new number before he asked for it. I do not think you should call him. Give him some more time. There could be a lot of reasons why he did not call - work - out of town - emergency - any number of things; but one of them could be that he does not want to seem too forward. He may think that contacting you too soon might put you off and he does not want to push you away. So give him some time. But if you know where he might be hanging out try just showing up with some girlfriends not guy friends. If he sees you with another guy he may assume you are taken and not interested in him. Good luck. Give him some time and space but do employ your ingrained feminine art of pursuit and capture, LOLI need a mature man's advice...?
    he kept your old number for years he doesnt think your interrested and he is madly in love with you ...phone girl NOW
    maybe he's not sure that you want him to call. Maybe he thought you just being nice. I wouldn't call him, i'd try to setup with a mutual friend some type of low key meeting (where you'll both be there). Or find out what else he does, and just show up. Basically you had a connection, you just got to push the envelope.





    By the way i agree, the single/dating board is full of high schoolers.
    Life is short. Call him. If he's not interested then it won't go anywhere and you have your answer. no sense adding stress to your life wondering ';what if';. Call him or forget him, that's my opinion. I've met girls before and then was too shy to call. He may be hoping you call him. Go for it. Let me know what happens!
    From what you said, it sounds like he was definately interested in you. As to why he hasn't called yet, who knows; there could be many valid reasons for it.





    My advice: why don't you call him. Avoid the second guessing and grab the phone and call him.
    If he hasn't called in a few days he probably isn't in to you at all. Give it a few more days then forget about him. If it does workout make sure you don't ever get married and destroy the relationship. Here are the facts of life you should learn just in case:





    1. There is no Santa


    2. There might be a Bigfoot


    3. All men cheat, almost all women cheat


    4. Marriage ruins relationships (moving in is the same)


    5. Everyone lies (you even lie to yourself)


    6. Life is not fair





    Good luck and Happy Holidays. Email me


    if you want to hear the truth. You can ask me anything.


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  • Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?

    Alright here it goes: I am currently serveing on my second tour in Iraq. And I am married. I love my wife. But for lack of better words, she's self absorbed. Her sister is staying with her while I'm gone and while I've been away, they went got dressed up, put on make up and low cut tops and went out to a bar till 3am. I told her I didn't like it. (in the nicest way possible) while still coming across pretty clear. Well a month goes by and she's done it again. Only this time she doesn't tell me about it. I've caught her lying about how much money she's spending while I'm gone (although I haven't let her know), she promised to send me a letter a week while I'm gone (I've gotten 1 in the five months I've been gone so far) she doesn't e-mail me, she'll pick up the phone when I call. But she just acts like everything is hunk dory. I'm aat a loss as to how to react. I want to react, but I know if I just get pissed off she will feel attacked and just stop listening. And probably do it again. I've tried telling her how I feel about it. But that didn't even phaze her. What do I do? From 12,000 miles away?Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
    Being a military wife, I've seen this stuff happen plenty of times. A wife should be somebody you are able to trust, not someone who lies to you about what they are doing, how much money they are spending, etc. As your wife, she should be doing things like writing you letters, and if she has only written you one in five months then there is something wrong. Honestly from what I've seen of military wives, the ones that go out and get all dressed up are usually the ones that cheat on their husbands. Don't get me wrong, there are some who don't, but most of the time if they are wearing low cut shirts getting all dressed up, and going out with another girl, that's usually the case. It's fine if she goes out once every couple of months just to loosen up, but she should be wearing jeans and a T-shirt, not a low cut shirt.





    This is what you need to do. Tell your wife that you are in a very uncomfortable position. Tell her that it's hurting you a lot. Be upfront and honest with her. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her that if she keeps things going like this, you won't be able to trust her anymore. With out trust, you won't be able to be married to her. Also bring up the money issue. Tell her that you are concerned, as would any husband be. Be calm about everything and don't yell. Just make sure she knows how serious about it you are and then maybe she'll straighten up her act.





    Being a wife to somebody in the military is hard at times, so you have to remember that. But what you need to remember most is that she should be supporting you as much as she possibly can. She shouldn't be doing things all the time that are making you upset and stressed out while you are in iraq. That's very self centered and she is not thinking in your best interest at all. In my opinion tell her to be honest and to stop doing what she's doing or you'll leave her. A wife should be somebody who cares what you have to say, not somebody who blows off everything you are saying like it's not a big deal when it really is to you.





    Think about yourself and what you really deserve. Good luck with everything, don't let her walk all over you.Ladies PLEASE HELP MILTARY MAN NEEDS ADVICE?
    Thank you for serving our country!





    Put only what she needs to get by in the joint account. Put the rest in a savings account she doesn't have access to. Suggest she get a part-time job to pay for her extras.





    You guys need to have a serious talk, but it probably wont do any good until you get home.
    It makes me so mad to hear stuff like that women that have good men and do them wrong. Honistly you deserve better you should leave her if she cannot respect you. ALL kinds of ppl go to the bar i dont htink that is somewhere where you should go if you are married sorry
    Well...she sure shows her TRUE colors. You have a right to get mad~!


    She is out messing around on you. Its plain as day.





    Pull the money from her. She is a dog to do this to you while you are serving our country.


    I am proud of you honey. I am sorry.


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    It brakes my heart to read this. Shame on her, here you are, in Iraq and I'm sure you are scared, lonely, home sick and she dose not care. I would leave her ***.
    To quote Tom Arnolds character in the movie True Lies...


    ';What did you expect? She's a flesh and blood woman and you're never there.';
    tell her the future will be affected if she spends too much and please be careful....she is bored....reassure her you love her as much as possible...
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    i would like to first say.....thankyou ...........thankyou for serving our country. i am an ex-military dependant. my ex cheated on me all the time..............this is neiter here or there...........your situation seems diff. When a woman dresses up and does not act out the part from her heart as being your significant other...............she is up to something. it was hard for me to see my man go for so long. He too, went to saudi and i was raising our 2 dds basically alone. i was tempted to do the same as your wife, the lonliness and fear gets deep. this is NOT your fault, she made a choice in being your wife and your job is to serve and to protect. since , i do not know your ages it makes it hard to give a precise answer to your problem...........a woman under 30 usually does not know what she wants or what she has until it is too late. you seem sincer and are really worried about your relationship. if she is making bad decisions and leading you on.............than let her go. there are woman(such as me) that respect and love a man that is willing to go beyond measures to serve both land and family. If she cannot honor your feelings as a active partner.......soul mate than let her go. ........you deserve to recieve letters and support. i used to belong to the Hearts-apart-program ..........you are not alone in this.....many men and woman while away from the home front have lost what they thought they had. Love is out there.........good luck.....be safe ...........our country needs you........shelly
    First off I want to thank you for your time spent serving our country.





    Now, as for the wife, sometimes military wives get a bit crazy when the husband is gone to help numb the pain of their absence, but there are others that do it simply because they cannot be faithful and use the husbands absence as an excuse to do what they would do anyway.


    Being that you are so far from her, you are going to worry more than usual, but then again, if you asked her nicely not to do this and she still does, I would say she doesn't respect you in the slightest, which is sad. My husband served in the Navy and was gone a lot and believe me, it would have been easy to do what your wife is doing, but I didn't out of love and respect for my husband.





    My suggestion would be to seriously wait until you are back home and can sit and talk with her face to face and possibly even get some counceling. You could ask the ombudsman to help get you two through this while you are gone.





    I really hope all works out with you. I hate seeing a man putting his life on the line for his country while his wife is out ';painting the town';. Good luck to you in the future. :)
    hey bro im not a female but i feel your pain you have to get a separate account and only shoot her what is needed to live light lights water and food if you are out here fighting and in the suck and she thinks that she can get a free pass off you then you have to let her know that its not all good. if you don't check her she will feel that it is ok for her to do as she pleases. and if you don't have kids then there is no reason for her sister to be there cause right now you are serving as a cash cow and they balling at your expense. im sure you love your old lady so i wont say anything foul or tell you to dx her. but on the real don't let her make you out to be her b%%ch while you are out here defending the free world. don't kill her but show her 1000000 miles.away that you are still man of the house. just think about it as a soldier if you cut of the enemies supply they fail. so if you cut off her dough supply then she will either humble up or leave you and then that's when you see what your marriage is really worth. hate to hear this happening to you but you are a soldier ruck up you will be aight bro.
    She is lonely too. How she is handling may not be the way you want her to, but there is not much you can do about it.





    The bigger problem seems to be that she does not even contact you. I would be concerned that she is not in love with you. Why don't you talk to your Chaplain there, and have him contact your wife. Perhaps he can get clarity out of the situation. that is how my sister and her husband handled it when he was stationed in Spain.

    Married to a quadriplegic man, some advice?

    I am married to a man who is a complete C6 quadriplegic. (For anyone who doesn't know that term, he broke his neck in a spot where all four of his limbs were affected.) We interact like any normal couple, the only thing that is really obvious is that he always is shoulder height to me because he sits down all the time. (If he were standing he'd be 6'3';! Yikes!)





    The issue is, he has both intense muscle spasms occasionally and disreflexia. (sp?) He really gets down on himself and gets violently mad at his body when the spasms and/or disreflexic reactions get really bad. (The disreflexia is kinda rare, thank goodness.)





    I love him very much and I have been a support to him regarding his daily needs as a quad since the day I married him and before that. But sometimes it is hard on my heart when he breaks down and hates his body for not working anymore, and I don't know how to be there. Counseling does little for him, because most counselors see him as a very well-adjusted, grounded man in spite of his level of injury. He's very self-therapeutic. But sometimes he cries... and sometimes I wish I could take his injury away. Sometimes he tells me how much he wishes he could do this-and-that for me if he were walking, and it depresses him...





    I guess I wanna know, from people in relationships with quadriplegics/paraplegics and also from married couples in general... how can I be there for him when he gets like that? It's not often, but often enough. What should I do to comfort *myself* when he's like that?





    Thank you.Married to a quadriplegic man, some advice?
    I'm not a quadriplegic/paraplegic, however I have had a Stroke. I had my Stroke on September 20, 1994, when I was six years old. I'm now almost 21. The month of September is an extremely difficult even now almost 15 years later. My right arm, hand, leg and foot move on their own. I have no control over what they do. My hand is often times flipping people off without my knowledge.





    I have 4 sisters. Nothing is wrong with them. Jealous and rage are what lashes out of me when I think of what could have been if this hadn't happened to me. It makes me hurt to know I will never be able to hold my own child properly or to wear high heels. However I try not to think about it. I try to focus on the good things that my Stroke has brought me.





    You love him but sometimes you have to bear with his outbursts. You be his outlet. Sometimes you just have to say get over it. Yes this happened but you can't change the past. I know it sounds harsh, believe me it was hard to hear but it's for the best.





    For you, you also need an outlet, join a group or go to the mall. Do something without him once in while. Everyone needs a break including you. You can email me if you want too. I can recommend other way to deal with it. You are a good women. Don't ever let anyone tell you differently. There's a quote that sometimes I say to myself when I can't do something I want too. ';We aren't disabled, we are differently-abled.';





    Please email me if you want too. I hope this helped. I have loads more to say but felt like this was enough for right now. Good luck. Keep being strong, because if you were weak you never would have looked at him twice.Married to a quadriplegic man, some advice?
    I heard of a program that helps quadriplegics It's very new I saw it on T V and you can check with the local hospitals but they are working on ways to help them walk again .Good Luck You are a good wife ,
    You sound like you love him alot. I think that in itself is quite a lot for him. Knowing someone is going to be there for you, know matter what is comforting. Everyone gets down on themselves for one thing or another. Very normal. He sounds like he is handling the injury very well. I think it is quite normal for him to hate his situation, body, etc....





    Keep being there for him. The long and short of it~he knows he can count on you and he knows just how much you love him.





    Lots of luck to the both of you!
    Hi Mouse ~





    I'm going to address your last question first: The best way to comfort yourself is to be grateful that you can get up from your chair anytime you want to and walk somewhere, that you can go on amusement park rides and scream your head off, you can bathe and dress yourself ... in other words, be grateful for what you have. Your body is sound and whole. That should be enough comfort for anyone.





    For your husband, it sounds like you are completely devoted to him and doing your best already. *big hug* How about this: Why don't you have a quiet talk with him one night over dinner, and work on the positives for him as well? Tell him how happy you are to be his wife, how much you appreciate everything he does for you, how much you love the life the two of you have, how much you love him being your husband. Ask him what he's most grateful for, and after he says, ';You, baby,'; smile sweetly and ask him what else? Really draw him out - because then, the next time he's having a meltdown, you can remind him of all the things he's grateful and happy for in his life, at a time when he needs to hear it the most. Next time he gets down on himself or cries, go over to him and just put your hand on his face and start caressing him. Let him get it out - cry with him, if you need to. Show him that he's not alone, and that you love him for who he is.





    *another big hug*





    Take care xoxo
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    I know a guy that refused to use an electric wheelchair because he thought it was a sign of weakness. He used a manual wheelchair instead and caused himself more spinal and lung problems. I don't know why he thought using an electric wheelchair was bad. For some reason I guess he felt using a manual wheelchair proved greater manhood.





    Muscle spasms can be uncomfortable and exhausting. It's normal to get frustrated and medication may help the spasms. I don't know what you can do to comfort yourself. These things are a challenge and be as compassionate and patient as possible. Sometimes you don't need to say anything but let him know you are there for support.





    I know it's hard, and you probably don't want to hear it, but everything happens for a reason. I have health problems and I've had many surgeries. Because of my health problems I've met many wonderful people. Without my health issues I wouldn't have met certain people. I wouldn't trade my experiences for anything. I am thankful for my health problems because it's helped me become a better person.





    I don't base anything on appearances and I actually enjoy doing the opposite of what people expect. It's fun to see people get confused when I don't follow their preconceived ideas. I am a woman and I hope to marry a man that's around 5 or 6 inches shorter than me. If you look at our physical appearances we are complete opposites (not only in height). I don't care what people think because he's my soulmate!





    It's great that you've found such a wonderful husband. Best of luck!





    PS I don't know if you're a religious person but the Diary of Saint Faustina really helped me. It gave me a different perspective on suffering.

    18 year old young man needs advice?

    hi im 18 and expieriencing heart truoble,my heart has been contstantly pounding for the last 7/8 months, its at the normal rate but just really strong,my whole torsow vibrates each beat, very hard to sleep. if i walk up the stairs i get out of breath,im a smoker but otherwise healthy and average weight, no and the when i breathe in i feel a click or some noise in my chest ,i went to the doctor and i have an appointment with a heart specialist in 2 months but im worried some thing will happen to me by then as i work hard everyday and always shortbreathed,


    i would appreciate any advice or comments, thanks18 year old young man needs advice?
    Call the heart specialist you have that appointment with. If you tell him those symptoms he/she will move up your appointment if at all possible. The wait is usually reserved for the new patient.





    I feel for you as I've had the same problem getting to sleep some of the times I don't take my heart medication. My heart just wouldn't quiet down. It makes a wonderful reminder to take my medication when it happens.





    Those are serious problems. The medication will help a lot.18 year old young man needs advice?
    Try not to stress out about your condition. If your Dr thought it was life threatening, he would have admitted you to a hospital, or, at least, not waited for 2 months for an appointment with a cardiologist. Try holding your breath for about 15 seconds when you feel your heart is on a run away with its beats. This may prevent the acceleration. Whatever your diagnosis, I wish you luck, and take care. K
    im 19 and also have high blood pressure/pulse. my heart sometimes pounds when im sleeping, and i know exactly how youre feeling. i went to a cardiologist, had an EKG and an ultrasound of my heart. everything was totally fine. he put me on a low sodium diet, and gave me a heart monitor. the high pulse may mean that my internal pacemaker is off. however, my low sodium diet has really helped me and i havent had to use the heart monitor. hopefully, theres nothing wrong with you! just stay calm. eat healthy, and all should be good. you might want to stop smoking tho.
    first......quit your smoking! You could have some form of heart dysarthmia or valve problem. shortness of breathe is very likely due to your smoking.......if you can't stop all together, try to cut back on how much you smoke, and when you do smoke, don't just puff away, this sounds terrible, but, try to enjoy it, that way you won't feel the need for a 2nd cigarette. I'd advise vegertarian diet, easier said than done, I know. After you see your heart specialist, ask him if they can do something called a ';stress test.'; Anyways, good luck!
    SOUND LIKE YOUR BLOOD PRESSURE. IF THAT DR. SAY YOU DON'T HAVE NOTHING,TRY GOING TO ANOTHER DR.BECAUSE THATS NOT NORMAL YOU'RE TO YOUNG HUN TO START GETTING SICK.IT'S A GOOD IDEA TO TAKE VITAMIN I RECOMMENT Nutrilite庐 CoEnzyme Q10 Complex


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    first, you need to quit smoking. that will help some also. and next thing i suggest is going to your primary care doctor first and see if he/she could possibly get you in quicker.
    i would recoment taking it easy and if you are really worried, try and find out if you can get an a appointment at a earler date
    yes you require immediate care.
    Your symptoms sound like the kind of thing that you get when you have a leaky heart valve, or leaks actually within the chambers of the heart itself. These things most of the time are treatable in one way or the other and generally don't cause heart attacks or sudden cardiac death. I'm sure if your primary provider had grave concerns about the problem he would have taken immediate action or at least restricted your activity in some form. If you are really worried sound him out on this over the phone.
    Dear Mr. Cripmo,


    From your explanation I fear you are suffering from CHD (Coronary Heart Disease). It is a disease which effects your Coronary arteries, the artery which supplies blood to heart itself for its normal pumping needs. If the artery is shrinked, sufficient blood supply will not be received by the heart muscles. That is why you feel small discomforts and short breathes when you do hard works. There are so many reasons for the route cause, but one of the main thing is smoking. First you stop smoking and approach a Cardiologist. There is nothing to worry. After an angiogram the doctor can advise you the management of the disease.

    Could a dying old man's advice help prevent breast cancer?

    15 years ago I worked in the physical therapy dept. of our city hospital.


    Unfortunately, we couldn't rehab everyone.


    In this case, I visited a dying man 2x a day just to move his joints to keep him from getting stiff.


    He knew he was dying and was okay with that.


    We had many good talks. But the one that sticks out in my head, and won't leave, is the talk we had about his wife.


    She died from breast cancer several years prior.


    He urged me to stop using anti-perspirant.


    His theory was that, because it stops you from sweating, all those toxins remain in that area. Thus increasing your chances of developing breast cancer.


    Makes sense to me.


    I think about it every time I apply it.


    What do you think?Could a dying old man's advice help prevent breast cancer?
    The anti-perspirant link has been debunked. First of all, your sweat glands aren't there for removing toxins from your body (that's the job of liver and kidneys), but for cooling your body. Sweat is mostly water and some electrolytes. And think about it, if toxins were a problem, then everyone's liver and kidneys would become cancerous, since they process toxins.





    This all started from an email that circulated years ago. There's no truth to it.





    If it makes you feel better, don't use antiperspirant. But your chances of getting breast cancer are still about 1 in 7 or 8.Could a dying old man's advice help prevent breast cancer?
    Parabens in cosmetics are thought to cause cancer %26amp; parabens are in everything.

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    Yes, there is something to that. Antiperspirants stop sweating with aluminum which can cause both cancer and Alzheimer's. We don't need to have aluminum in our bodies. http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articl…





    P.S. It's just common sense that you don't put toxins in your body like aluminum, rather than waiting for them to be declared officially carcinogenic. You assume they're guilty until provin innocent.
    There is no proof to that rumor. It has been around as long as I can remember, and I have been doing mammograms for 31 years.





    Your patient was grasping at a reason for his wife's cancer, when she was just one of the 10% of the female population that will get breast cancer in her lifetime. That is what humans do...try to have a reason for everything, when there is no reason, sometimes.





    Please don't continue to spread such rumors. It is hard enough dealing with the disease on a daily basis without having to quell fact from fantasy.
    well thats one mans theory


    i about think anti -perspirants would be used by the majoirty of the worlds population if they had anything to do with cancer


    come on think about it he was a dying man greifin over his wife and thinking of any possible way to blame a something
    garbage





    Well to prevent the thumbs down, I could have said it nicer. However, it is still garbage. If the ONLY place you sweat is your pits, you should probably visit a dr.
    NO, antiperspirants have nothing to do with breast cancer Sweating is a result of your body way of cooling you off. I just had a bi-lateral mastectomy Nov. 7. Breast cancer is hereditary. Every one has the gene for potential cancer of any kind it's just by rotten luck that some become more susceptible to getting cancer than others. My family has a long history of breast cancer. I had the gene test done for breast cancer and as I figured, my chances were great for cancer. I am really happy to have the mastectomies. I know that sounds strange, but if you knew our family history, you would understand. My Oncologist explained a lot to me about breast cancer and never once did he mention the use of deodorant as a cause. Sweating is not getting rid of toxins. It is fluid and like I said, it's the body's way of cooling you off because if those excess fluids remained in the body, it could cause problems. Check it out. Go on a web site. In fact, I will do it for you. Do you have a family history of breast cancer? I urge everyone to make sure you get mammograms. You are to young right now, and men too also get breast cancer. It's not as prevalent as in women, but it does happen. I also admire you for having conversation with the dying man. I know it's your job to move his joints, but do you have any idea how many people just go in a patient's room, do what they have to without much converstion and just leave? I have been a nurse for 30 years and I never walked in a patient's room without having a good talk. Not just about how they feel, real talk about a lot of things. You cetainly care about your patients, that's obvious so keep it up. We need more caring people like you and no, I'm not saying this to win best answer. I always told my nurses the importnace of converstion and not the robotics of going in a room, passing meds, taking vital signs and walking out. God bless you, you probably made a dying man very happy. But just know, that breast cancer is hereditary and the use of deoderant has nothing to do with the possiblity of getting the cancer. I just went in my medical book and looked it up so I'm going to give you a direct quote so will know for sure.';Perespiration-the excretion of fluids by sweat glands through pores in the skin. It consist of water, containing sodium choride,phosphate, urea, ammonia, and other waste products. It serves as a mechanism for regulating body temperature';, These other chemicals are found naturally in the body so I guess you could say, yes, they do get rid of toxins. Glad I looked it up, but it says nothing about causing cancer. So use your deoderant with ease. Sorry for the narrative. Be well, Be blesed
    All synthetic pills made in labs are not recognized by the body. Everything from OTC drugs to prescription drugs ahve side affects. Your body doesn't want them. In fact most srugs don't work like they say and many people have pointed this out and they have received threats. Kevin Trudeau is one such person. The reason modern medcines don't work is they don't solve the problem. If someone has cancer in their body you solve nothing by removing the cancerous tumors. The tumor is your vody surrounding these cells. If you have a tumor the cells have probably invaded your whole body. So opening your body up just makes things worse. Sure some people have a tumors removed and live a long time. Some people take chemo and live long, but many more people would be saved if people used hemp oil, hydrogen peroxide, radio frequencies and pure oxygen. Some people can use certain things like sugar substitutes, but in America most people are sick by the time they are 60 and they live a miserable life on drugs to they're 80, but in Asian countries people don't get cancer. They work until they are a hundred. In America the government has it planned that you work till you are 66 and then die a miserable death 10 years later on drugs. If people would eat right and quit taking drugs they would live healthy till they were over a hundred. I mean some people live to be 115, but not many. Some people have lived to be over 150. The government doesn't want you getting social security for 50 years. It's very starnge that people in poor countries are better off than we are. The poor people from Russia's main problem is they have so much cancer, because the Jewish commies dumped nuclear waste in the rivers and it's in the ground water.
    I think it really has more to do with your lifelong exposure to estrogen due to the menstrual cycle. Breast cancer was first described as the nuns disease because, as virgins, they never had a child so they lacked the ductal maturation you get with pregnancy and also they never had a holiday from menstrual cycles. Thus, having babies is protective for women. The other thing you can do is go on the pill as it mimics pregnancy essentially and lowers exposure toe estrogens. I wouldn't get too overweight as the breasts are a place you can accumulate fat and fat has a tendency to ';go off'; and produce free radicals in a process similar to the polymerisation of fats in paints (as paint dries)

    Just need a MATURE MAN'S advice plzzz!!!?

    I used to be really good friends with this guy but I lost contact with him for about 3 years. I found him on facebook and we've been writing on eachother's walls for a little over a month. I thought he wanted to hang out because I was talking to him and he told me the upcoming weekend he was going to be soooo bored and have nothing to do. Unfortunately, I was busy and he asked if I was busy on both days, which I was. So I told him we should hang out some time, but he said: ';idk when we can hang out since I'm soooo busy...I'll try to chill with you though'; ....I wrote back ';Ok you can tell me a date or two and I'll tell you if I'm free.'; This was about 2 weeks ago, and he's been on facebook since then. But he hasn't been on in a week. I just need advice!!! He's really busy-But I don't know if he wants to hang out. I kinda just want to know what's up so I can either move on or not because I hate just hanging on to him not knowing what's up. What should I do?! Please don't tell me to get over him-I don't give up that easily.Just need a MATURE MAN'S advice plzzz!!!?
    Give him some time then if he still hasn't responded then give him a date you are free and keep it up until you find one you can both do.





    Either he isn't intrested and will never be avalable or you will get together. Just in case be prepared for both.Just need a MATURE MAN'S advice plzzz!!!?
    hmm if u want to be mature about it..


    ur waisting ur time waiting.. don't wait


    but make ur self open


    just in case he hits you up later
    he probably feel regected so tell him what happen whit that invitation to haing out, then he'll might pick up on that and know that you have some interest
    lol..if he dint ask u..u shud fix up a date..wake up woman itz 21st century..for god sake...
    be patient hes tryin to meet you again but as you said hes busy
    You can try to keep after him. After all, it's a free country, but it's probably just a waste of time.





    When it comes to a girl being interested in us believe me it shows up right away on our ';guy radar.'; He knows you want to get together, but he's either got someone else, or he's not interested in you. It happens. I once had a friend who was a girl that was clearly interested in me, but I just couldn't get interested in her. I felt bad enough until I finally got engaged to the Great Love of My Life, who reported back to me how crushed that girl was when she congratulated my fiancee on our engagement. Talk about feeling low!





    You can't ';make'; someone like or love you. The best you can do is to be as likable as you can and keep your eyes and ears open. Sooner or later some guy will come along that will like you back.

    I need a mature Man's Advice?

    I ran into a guy I worked with ten years ago in highschool. He looked incredible so I was shy and did not approach him. He came up to me at the table some girlfriends and I were sitting at. He stayed there and talked to me for awhile and sat down for a bit. Throughout the night he came back and forth to our table and his. He asked me if the cell number he had in his phone was still good and I said no that it was a very old number, and asked him if he wanted my updated number. He said yes and I gave it to him. My question is that, I was interested in him and could not tell if he was interested in me. All night I caught him looking at me and when he did we would smile at each other. The problem is that I NEVER see him out this was very rare, and I am hoping that he will call me...he and I are both in our late 20s. I just wanted to get some opinions from other guys, cause I'm curious.


    ThanksI need a mature Man's Advice?
    i think he is interested but afraid of being rejected, and i think that if you are interested you should call him , you never know it might work out , i like it if a woman calls me then i know that she is interested and i know that it will be mutual attraction,i hope this helpsI need a mature Man's Advice?
    Seems like shy flirting, catching him looking at you means he probly thinks the same thing as you do ( looked incredible) hope he calls, good luck
    I'm at a similar age, single and despite living in a large city I sometimes run into people from HS. From what you posted, and sorry for sounding critical, but it seems like a central issue may be:Do you have an issue making the first move?


    Cuz it seems that if you like him and think he might feel the same you should just call him and test the waters. Unless you never asked for his number, which could pose a problem. In this day and age, it shouldn't be a big deal for a woman to call a man first. As a guy, it's flattering and refreshing b/c we're so used to always making the initial approach. My advice would be to call him. Otherwise you may need to wait another 10 yrs before you run into him again. Worst case scenario is that he's not interested and then you''ll likely never see him again. Good luck and be brave my friend!
    if he wanted your number hes interested
    He's definitely interested. Try getting closer to him and then it will be easier for him to make a move.
    well of couse he likes you i would too and it sounds like you guys will have very good times together
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  • Sex problems with my man...any advice??

    the guy i'm seeing is insecure about his penis size, and constantly asks me if its the biggest i've seen when we are intimate, and he brags about his size on a regualr basis. (but he's average). Then he never climaxes when we do mess around. He always initiates stuff and he's always gets erections. he drinks beer a lot and smokes daily. Does all this contribute to him not being able to climax? and how can i talk to him about this without hurting or offending him? Does he need therapy because maybe this is something i can't help him with.Sex problems with my man...any advice??
    he has lots of problems. are you sure you want to put up with all of this?Sex problems with my man...any advice??
    Your guy sounds like at least a partial head case. The alcohol and smoking don't help things....BTW is he on antidepressants? They can often inhibit the ability to have an orgasm.
    I don't know!! Just be honest and tell him the truth.
    When he asks you again about his size tell him you will have to get your glasses and he is probably suffering from brewers droop and will only get worse so good luck
    He probably gets Whiskey Dick from drinking and smoking....





    I get that too if ive had enough to drink...i wont be able to go. Ask him to stay sober for a day and see what happens. Best of luck to you
    Sounds like your boyfriend has a drinking problem, which is what causes him to not get climaxes. You can only encourage him to go to Alcoholics Anonymous, you cannot make him stop drinking, he needs to realize he has a problems.You could try talking to his family to see if they can help you set up an intervention to force him to ge help.


    Best of Luck
    Lot's of guys brag about their size. They are probably small.


    It's the guys that talk about how small theirs are that are freakishly huge.


    And if he isn't climaxing, and it doesn't bother him.....it shouldn't bother you. Better that....than if he went off like a Roman Candle as soon as he hauls it out.
    Sounds to me like someone over-compensates for his anxieties by bragging! Alcohol can lead to delayed ejaculation, but sounds like there's more this than 'brewer's droop'. You guys really need to talk, so that you can at least get some idea of what's going on in his mind. It's always gonna be a tricky topic to negotiate, but you need to make sure he understands that you just want him to have a good time.





    Good luck
    okay...drinking definantly has a lot to do with it...my bf can never *** after he has had a few...not unless its his first time of the night...but smoking...naw...and you should definintly talk to him about it...i tell my bf he is small so he doesn't get a big head...that way i don't have to worry about it...and counseling would be a yes if you plan on stayin with him...but if you are you should search deeper than sex and ask yourself if you really want to be with a possible alcoholic for the rest of your life...i think not...girl you can do better.
    smoking and dring does...
    Alot of men have an insecurity about their size - although making you say it's the largest you've seen and such seems alittle rediculous, but whatever.





    As for not being able to climax - I am unsure of what exactly could cause this, the only thing I could think of is him having an unhealthy heart and heartrate from smoking and drinking. This can lead to heart problems, and hence, erectile disfunction from bad blood flow.





    I'm not much help, but maybe you could ask him about it, although I do realize it would be an odd thing to just randomly talk about.
    Its ur fault he cnt climax. Stop taking down his self esteem and blaming him! Its u!

    ANYONE OVER 40? OLDER MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE PLEASE!!!?

    am 42 and have recently been dating a man who is 54. He is divorced. We are both ';free'; He has done thiings that show he is concerned about my welfare and everything, but he seems distant. Not as open or romantic as I would like. I think he is also a little shy. He has older man problems in bed and I am worried that that is bothering him. He is always mindful that I have a good time so to speak so thats not a problem. I just feel bad for him. Any advice on how I can get him to be more relaxed and open up to me? What does an older man really want in bed? I know he wants to be more adventurous- but we are still new together. I think he is great and a keeper, don't wanna lose him so what do you think?ANYONE OVER 40? OLDER MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE PLEASE!!!?
    by what your saying it seems he's uncomfortable with his size and disorder. if you really care for him tell him that. most of the time when men feel like that they tend to close up in fear that the woman there with will scorn and dump them for that. if you love him tell him not to worry. and no im not 40. im 15. so i dont know if youll count my asnwerANYONE OVER 40? OLDER MAN RELATIONSHIP ADVICE PLEASE!!!?
    hey,, you doing all right.. just keep it up... as long as both of you are concerned about the others pleasure.. its a good relationship in bed.. and all he needs is more practice.. and maybe let him rest for a few hours before seconds.
    IM me, not wanting to tell the world everything, male, 44
    Get him some viagra for Christmas.

    I need a man's advice, please help me :(?

    i have been having trouble understanding my husband (what is he really feeling?) he says he is in love with me still but doesn't act it, unless he wants sex..any other time its like im his enemy. He cans go days with out talking too me, if i don't see him for a couple of days (bc of him going to his grandmothers to do work around her house) and i call him the conversation will be like this...me: hey babe whatcha doin? ....him: nothing, what do you think im doing, working around my grandmother house..me: ok well was just calling you because i miss you thats all.. him: do you need something! me: never mind and then i hang up and cry..he doesnt show me he loves me like i said unless he wants sex then i could get him to like **** off the ground if i wanted him too! I dont know what to do, i just want to feel loved and wanted again. Im so sad these days actually a few years now its only getting worse. i just feel like i am a failure as a wife somehow...i do everything for him wash, clean, make his lunch, take care of him i love him so much and this is over-whelming me to think he may not love me anymore :( please send me some advice anyone,please :(


    Thanks


    Sad wifeI need a man's advice, please help me :(?
    I am a man of few words.My wife and I do not have sex often because of the medicine I on.


    I show my wife that I love her by giving her a back rub,and vice,and she does the same for me.


    We have been married for 28 years,and still love each other.


    Hoped this helps you out.


    Good luck.

    Dating a military man?some advice?

    since a couple of weeks ive been talking to a guy who is in the marines.he is stationed in california.ive kinda fallen head over heels for him and from what i can tell he feels the same.hes coming back to my his hometown (we both live in the same city) in about 3 weeks.we made plans that we will see each other. but i do know that he is going to afghanistan for seven months next year. im just afraid that im falling in love with him and what would i do if we were in a relationship and he would get deployed ?


    any advice for me?how often would we have contact? how do you guys do it who have boyfriend/husband oversees in the military?Dating a military man?some advice?
    Take these things into consideration before getting too involved!





    Easy question! NextDating a military man?some advice?
    damn. honestly id advise u to try and not fall too deeply in love with him cz he might die, especially afganistan, + if he comes back, trust me its gonna be hard 2 live a normal life with a military guy. he might be too controling, strict etc... but thats just tha negative side of it. if you already love him alot then u can give it a chance.
    Military personnel have a very transient lifestyle and to maintain a relationship is not easy for either party. If you want a guy to be around and available all the time then a military man is not for you and you should be honest with him about it.
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    That forum ^^ can help you any questions. A lot of them have been married for 2 years or more and have been in similar situations. They will be able to support you and get your questions answered better than yahoo.





    Good luck!
    it could turn out good you never know and what would it hurt it would help him to have a easyer time over there but it up to you and how you feel
    awww.. his a marine


    you should be proud of him


    oh anyways


    how often would we have contact?


    its all where his stationed


    may not have internet ....may have internet
    Don't do it. Military dudes are dicks who have nothing better to do with their lives than start trouble, and he'll beat you up.
    day by day.


    its hard


    but if its worth it,


    go for it


    they like to know who their fighting for %26lt;3
    If he is an enlisted soldier do you want to live in poverty your whole life?
    Give him lots of felash, he's serving our country!!!!
    Hope for the best, that's all I can say.
    run away!!!!!!! he will cheat and be abussive!
    ps. dont cheat
    i think you have to consider first is your feelings.. if you like then go, if not.. dont have date.. its simple right??
    I had a very similar situation.


    I went to highschool with this guy (who is now my husband) and he's in the Army. He was overseas before we started dating and just happened to write me on myspace and ask me on a date when he was on leave. We went on that one date and have been together ever since (He's still stationed in New York and I live here in Alabama)


    I am incredibly lucky that my husband won't have to go back overseas (and will be completely out of the Army in about 8 months)


    I can't imagine how hard it would be if he had to go back overseas.


    I was the same way you were, I was so afraid to fall in love with my now husband because I knew how bad it would hurt both of us if he had to go back overseas (him being 1000 miles away is hard enough!)


    But honestly, there's no way I could have stopped myself from falling in love with him even if I tried (and you can't either).


    The way I see it, I would rather have him (and be hurt by the distance..ect) than to be hurting because I didn't have him at all.


    You would most likely have very little contact with him when he's overseas.


    My advice for you would be to meet him in person (like you planned) and just come straight out and ask him how he feels about you and whether or not he'd like to continue the relationship while he's overseas, or if he's willing to wait until he gets back to start an actual ';relationship';.


    Good Luck. I feel for you. I know how it is, and believe me it is no fun sometimes, but if you love each other enough, then you can definately make it through 7 months of him being overseas.
    Well having lived in a navy town most of my life, and then serving myself and being stationed overseas i can safely say. that you need to find out a couple things about himself, yourself and other things.





    for one thing. a military lifstyle for enlisted families ( i say families in reguards to relationships) are usualy best fitted with people who are ok with the term ';absense makes the heart grow fonder'; the average term for an overseas deployment such as the middle east can be anywhere from a year.. yes a year. to several years depending on his job, he can take leave depending on the situation of his command, and how many days of leave he has acrued. youd need to ask him about that stuff.





    the question you really need to ask yourself is, can you wait for him if/when he leaves. theres more than a couple horror stories ive heard in my time in the service of a fellow shipmate having his GF/wife etc writting him a letter or simply sending him a notice saying ';ive emptied our bank account, sign this divorce paper and youll be rid of me cause im with someone else now spending your paycheck';





    Not saying youd do that in any way, but those types of people never got into the relationship with the information and understanding that they would be sepperated from their significant other for an extended period of time, they got bored, or they got lonely, and some started to hate their husbands for being gone so long as if it was somehow his fault they wouldnt ship him home for some family time.





    adding to this. alot of younger military end up getting married or engaged right out of bootcamp or job school aka A-school, their young, confident and all in all, not very smart when it comes to thinking of the future in these things. and a majority of these marrages end up trashed.





    I dont write this stuff to scare you, but its important you think about these things, i suggest talking to a couple of the VETERAN marines wives in the area and find out these things, show them this letter if need be to put them on the same page as you are feeling wise.





    i say veteran military wives because they have been there, and know how hard it can be sometimes, if one of them says ';oh its been great, have some kids to keep you company'; or something.. ignore that one and find another one.





    I can safely say that with my significant other, we found eachother after i had been deployed and could relate what kinds of things would happen person to person, and she understood this from the start, shes the type that can go for a while without me, shes strong and self reliant like a good military wife needs to be sometimes. all in all the relationship hasnt gone badly. although sometimes it can be hard with a phonecall in your 15th month abroad whispering ';i miss you';





    Ask around and find these things out, ask him also, his MGS or whomever is in charge of his division/platoon etc if you can, and THEIR wifes also. this is a really tight nit group of people and im sure they will be willing to talk to you about all the aspects of this.
    i am a Marine and personally i don't like long distance relationships because i've had too many women lie to me. About your question, i haven't been deployed yet but i don't think you'll be able to talk over the telephone but i do know that they still receive e-mails so you'll be able to talk through that. Not sure how often he'll be able to check it; sorry i can't be more help.





    also you peoplel who say that he'll abuse her are retarded, and if you're going by movies that you seen then your even more retarded, if you're going by experience then you deserved it for being retarded. From what i've seen most of us are nice, we are just a bit whore-ish.
    Its tough when their deployed but not as tough as it used to be thanks to modern technology. They are still able to keep in contact through computers and such you probably wouldn't be able to talk to him everyday but they try to make it easier on them especially those with wives and children back home. If you really care for him im sure you can make it through. But you also have to know that if you get involved with someone in the military you will have to deal with this same situation more then once. If this is something you think you can endure for years or even his whole career then it may be worth it. It really depends on how much you care about him and how much your willing to go through to be with him. Being the wife of a military man is hard especially if you are not used to moving around.

    In need of man love advice?

    Alright, so Ive been talking to this guy I ve had a mad crush on for about a month, he passed by my job a few nights ago, then actually called up to my job, to say ';hi'; then yesterday he called me on my cell phone, and we talked for over four hours, and the first thing he says during the conversation is..';So how do you feel about me'; ';Do you see me as your man,boyfriend, husband, friend';, and I told him I have to go out with him and see first, and he says well I'm not really looking for a relationship, but If I'm around a woman and she makes me happy then I'm all for it, I just dont like when a woman pressures me'; I said Okay well no one is putting any pressure on you'; and the thing is he always bring this up to me during our conversation..when I never even bring it up,then he bring it up again, 'So how do you feel about me'; later on during the conversation, I tell him again, we need to go out and feel each other vibe, and then hes like ';Oh well lets go out tonight';then..and I ask him what kind of music like, and he names every artist that I like..what is the deal?Why is asking me this question so fast??And on his facebook page, he deleted content with some of his female friends had sent him hugs and stuff, and whenver a female leaves a photo comment he never responds...I dont get this guyIn need of man love advice?
    To be honest I think he's trying to create his facebook to scream AVAILABLE yet he seems like oen of those men who would be controlling in a relationship and want everything their way. He shows that he is uinto you so thats a good sign but if he's going to be that neurotic even about his facebook maybe you should consider if he's really worth your time. Hope this helps,


    Jessica:.:...

    Hows my best man speech? (Advice welcome)?

    When I asked Phil how he wanted his best man's speech to go he said he wanted it to be funny, and so all the time we’ve spent together means that he’s had as much of a part in developing my sense of humour as anyone. So, whilst I have tried to make this speech funny, it really is Phils fault if it’s not.





    So Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen I hope everyone is enjoying this very special day. It’s been an emotional day for us all, ……..even the cake is in tiers..(look at Phil thumbs up) On behalf of the bridesmaids, I would like to thank Phil for his kind words. For once in my life, I find myself agreeing with him - they look beautiful and have done an excellent job today, and only rightly outshone by our bride, Sandra..And, I'm sure you'll agree with me guys, today is a sad day for us single men, as another beauty becomes unavailable. And well ladies, eh em moving on.





    For those of you who don't know me, my name is Chris. I’ve been Phil's best friend for nearly 10 years now.





    I know a lot of people here are probably wondering “just what does Sandra see in Phil?”





    Well I have known him a long time and too be fair….I don’t know either!








    it is a great honour to be Best Man, but with the role comes the job of writing this speech, and to be honest I just wanted to make it as easy as possible.





    The obvious place seemed to be the Internet,





    After a couple of hours searching I found some REALLY good stuff , but ....then I remembered I was supposed to be looking for tips on Best Man speeches and I did actually find LOADS of ready-prepared good speeches . but sadly, NONE of them were about a couple called Phil and Sandra ....so I ended up having to do it myself








    Ive known Phil since College, we first met in a small pub called Quinns where we spent most of our lessons, he was the Geordie Fonz back then a bit of a ladies man always being surround by women





    I think it was because he had a really distinctive taste in fashion and well, being young and impressionable, I started to copy him in the sorts of things he used to wear - until my mum went mad at me for going though her wardrobe.





    in some ways over the years you could say I've been like a father figure to him. Ive watched him drink from a bottle, I watched him stagger around naked, I watched him crawl around on the floor, I've dressed and undressed him, cleaned up after him … and that was only last night!





    I think me and Pete have done a great job getting Phil her today sober, on time and good looking .. well compared to what I had to work with this morning two out of three ain't bad.





    My only one disappointment would have to failing to arrange his last request as a single man - due to strong protests from those do-gooders at the Stanley Sheep Protection Council. I tried my best Phil.





    I do believe that marriage is a wonderful thing for Phil. It will teach him loyalty, self-restraint and control. It will him develop a sense of responsibility, fair play and so many other qualities he wouldn't need if he had just stayed single.





    There is also a card from those guys from the golf club. It says, ‘Phil was useless in all positions but we hope Sandra has more luck with him later’ not sure what that means but anyway…





    On a more serious note, Phil you both looked fantastic today, we have had some excellent times together over the years mate, and I know that we will continue to do so in the future. You have been a great friend to me and I feel like i've gained a new friend, and it really is a great honour to be your best man, and I wish both Sandra and you every happiness for the future.





    Ladies and Gentlemen, May I now ask you to stand, and it gives me great pleasure ask you to raise your glasses in a toast to Phil and Sandra, the new Mr and Mrs Miller. We wish them well for the future, and hope they enjoy a long, happy, and fruitful marriage.Hows my best man speech? (Advice welcome)?
    I can tell you have put alot of effort into writing this. The funny bits are usual wedding type jokes, but comical all the same. I like how you have got the serious along with the funny bits, it represents your relationship with Phil, that you are close friends. I'm sure the bride and groom will love it :)Hows my best man speech? (Advice welcome)?
    wow perfect! I reallly enjoyed reading that ;L have a good day when it comes (: i liked the fact you have funny parts but parts on a more serious note, nice nice. (:
    Who the hell are you trying to be? Jim Davidson?
    honestly...it sucks....ladies and gentlemen makes you sound like a flight attendant, unless this wedding takes place on a plane, change it to something more bouncy and fun!





    - Make fun of the groom in a humourous way, tell the bride how beautiful she looks and how lucky she is





    - be funny





    - but after a few laughs the funny needs to become serious and moving!





    - do not talk about yourself unless the groom (or bride) is involved in the story





    - 1 crude story, not too crude...lol would be pretty cool to have!





    Good luck!
    Yes i have read through it. The way you talk about him in the past and introduce yourself for the people who may not know who you are is very important and also very effective. The speech is funny when you talk about when you first met Phil as a youngster and when you copied his unique sense of fashion.








    On my behalf id like to say that what you are saying is perfect because it is going to make everyone who is present laugh. Also talking about times in the past is commonly used and works wonderfully well because people get a brief idea of what the groom can be like as you mentioned you have '; cleaned him up';.





    The most important advice i can offer for you is that when you are about to say the speech, be laid back with a happy face and do not show any tension and i promise that you will enjoy the speech. Imagine the guests are watching you and be calm laid back and continue to tell your funny jokes and i can assure you it will work out just fine.
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  • Ex of my man question/advice?

    My soon to be hubby (Sept 6th) was married 14 yrs. Ex wife is absolutely gorgeous, but a biach! So he tells me he does not love her, wants nothing to do with, etc..he never talks to her on the phone, in fact, if he has to call her (re: their kids) he will text her cell (something like ';I will pick up the kids at 10) so he does not have to talk to her. After their divorce, they had reconciled for 7 months, but soon realized it was NOT going to work and ended it for good. (Divorce was in 2006) She has a bf, but I feel like she wants to mess with us. She is the type who is SO vain she wants him to want her. Well anyway, one night she was fighting with her bf and at 2am (after the bar, drinking) she texted my man ';that's it. I'm moving out. It's over'; (talking about her fight with her bf) my man read it and texted back ';Are my kids OK?'; and he told me about the text immediately. So my question, what are your thoughts or feedback??? Is she playing games? She seems in love with her current man...





    Help?Ex of my man question/advice?
    It sounds like your fiance is making the best of a bad situation. Every time she pulls a stunt like that he remembers why he divorced her! She is still looking to get some sort of reaction out of him and he's not playing.Ex of my man question/advice?
    LET HIM DEAL WITH HIS EX AND TRUST HE WILL BE HONEST WITH YOU UNTIL HE PROVES OTHERWISE..THIS IS UNNECESSARY WORRY AND STRESS ON YOU..DONT MAKE UP DRAMA..EVERYBODY HAS HAD SOMEBODY B4 THEY MOVE ON TO SOMEONE NEW SO ACCEPT HE HAS A PAST AND JUST TRUST YOU ARE HIS PRESENT AND HE IS MAN ENOUGH TO JUGGLE HIS PAST AND HIS PRESENT
    ex spouses have their own world together especially when children are involved. You can never truly know what's up. Don't be fooled.
    Who knows what she's after. But looks like your man is perfectly OK, so nothing to worry about.
    let the soon to be hubby deal with his ex

    I need a man's advice?

    Women can answer too, but I really really want a man's opinion.





    My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now, everything is great except for ONE thing. I wish he would communicate with me more. I tell him that I wish he would call me more or make more time for me, and he says that he will try but it always seems like hes not putting in any extra effort. Sometimes he says that I am too demanding. I've come to realize that this has a lot to do with gender differences, women need reassurance and to feel like they are special all the time. Men need their space.... but I'm just wondering... to what extent does that apply? If your girlfriend wanted you to communicate with her more, would you not call her every day without making it out to be such a huge chore? Do I have to just accept that he is a guy and that guys dont always have the need to talk to their girlfriends like we do?I need a man's advice?
    Guys really don't like talking on the phone if there's nothing to really talk about. Calling just to talk isn't really our bag.





    If there's something that needs to be talked about or if you need him to help you out with a problem or something, sure...but like if you're driving in your car and bored and decide to call him just to pass time, not really *my* favorite thing anyways.





    edit: wow, I used the word ';really'; a billion times there...


    edit2: mithril's got it right.I need a man's advice?
    Your boyfriend if you can find the right one, he should be the same as your best friend and lover. That you can talk to him about anything ,please each other to what you want. Find the best mate you can,not easy. Go for the gold. Don't take silver.
    Believe it or not, women need their space, too. Just try taking it. Soon he'll be underfoot.





    Men need reassurance, too. Try switching your communication to non-verbal.....DO something to let him know you love him, like a back-rub without being asked. I call it, the silent treatment: picking up his favourite treats, put his favourite program on, making a play list of his favourite songs....





    Take time when he's not around to indulge in your favourite things without any guilt that he's bored or something.





    Don't wind up being one of these girls who says ';Talk to me'; then can't be quiet long enough to listen.
    Sorry--no guy here, but I've been there, done that.


    There are enough men around who DO communicate and express their feelings and talk, etc. by choice, not because they're asked or pushed. You should know that this guy you're dealing with is not likely to change, and it's especially obvious after you've been so up front with him about what you want. You should move on and find a guy who better meets your needs. You might be able to tolerate his behaviour now, but if you ever ended up with him long term your tolerance would decrease and you'd end up dumping him or being dumped.
    Us guys call our girlriends every day when the relationship just starts the slowly we stop or just call a couple of times its just the we are i dont think its anything to do with loving less its just one of those things which just happens.However, i can advise you to accept you have to keep on trying to make you call you my girls sometimes just texts saying can you call me pliz sometimes i call right awaysometimes i take long but most of the times i feel guilty and end up calling before she texts or even calls.i hope this will help.All the best
    As a man, I feel that your wanting him to telephone you every day is excessive.





    However, since I am 32 and have never even had a date and probably never will, I would not place too much importance on the advice of one such self-loathing individual.
    Ive been in this one,so bear with me.Men and women communicate on different levels. Women approach a relationship as the groundwork of their lives and everything somehow is woven into the fabric.Men in most cases see a relationship as part of their lives but not the totality.Women mature emotionally at a much more accelerated pace ;partly by socialization and involvement with other women.Men on the other hand are geared to see other males as competition and as such have less frequent close relationships.This behavior carries over into all aspects of ';maleness';.There is a lot of technospeak on the biology of this but the fact remains that most men have an ingrained loner part and also are uncomfortable at admitting to being emotionally underprepared.Its not that we dont need to talk but that most of us just dont know how to keep the momentum going .
    he having a rough time talking with you.. communication doesnt always have to be difficult or via words.. get to know each other better by getting out and doing stuff.. eventually he'll spill his guts to you.. just get him more comfortable..peace
    The issue here is try to examine yourself,you are insecure,men does not like women who are insecure,asking more of his time is a sign of insecurity.Men likes women who are secure and not just demanding much of his time.you appeal more sexy to a man if you are not stealing his time.If a man really loves you,he does all the effort to please you and make you happy...what drives away men if you ask too much of their time and you suffocate them..Your being insecure drives him away,,,take it from me,i interviewed thousands of men on this issue...

    Question on my man.. need advice??

    Me and my boyfriend of 5 months have a GREAT relationship.. well until this girl that used to like him came back into the picture.. Recently she's been putting up things about him such as ';oh I love mike!'; And putting him as her #2 on MySpace.. and then he changes his.. he doesn't approve my comments anymore or anything and tells me its ';MySpace, it's drama and I don't care about it. My page messes up'; He doesn't check it often.. Well I've been getting real paranoid lately.. When I ask him about her he says, ';don't believe what you read, she's psycho, I would be with her if I wanted her that bad.'; He lives about 35-40 minutes away from us because me and her live in the same area.. He said he couldn't ';afford doing that and it's morally wrong';.. But blah I don't know what to believe.. I ALWAYS ask about it and he's getting tired of it saying ';is this going to be an everyday thing? Learn to trust me';





    What do you guys, girls think...??Question on my man.. need advice??
    omg. the same thing happenned with me a little while ago.


    you have to try to talk to him [[really talk to him about it]] if he still trys to avoid the subject, then break up with him. but if he really explains then you should trust him.

    Pregnant by married man/manager...advice?!?!?

    So I am a young, single mother to a 5-month old boy. In may I got into a relationship with my manager at work and thought God had finally brought me a wonderful guy.





    Well, to make a long story short--despite regular condom usage, I found out 3 days ago that I'm pregnant. And, to make matters worse, I also found out that he is married with 2 damn kids.


    Of course, when I told him he told me that 1) it wasn't his baby and 2) to lose his phone number because if I call he isn't going to answer.





    So, judgement aside because I already know where I screwed up....I am against abortion and would like to give this child up for adoption. However, I am wondering if there are homes/places/arrangements that can be made so that the pregnancy can be kept secret?


    %26amp; is there anything I can do to force some type of help out of him, because I'm going to need it---even if its something as simple as him paying for childcare for my son while i am in Labor.Pregnant by married man/manager...advice?!?!?
    Hi,





    Like you asked I am not judging here. We all know we all one screw up more than once. SO here are some ideas that I hope can help you and also don't feel as if you are all alone on this.





    About giving up the baby for adoption.


    Being at the other end, a woman who was looking to adopt, I find that this website :


    http://www.americanadoptions.com


    seemed to have a very caring, warm approach to both the mother and potential parents.


    They have tons of effective charitable comforting ideas/resources.


    Please do try to get in touch with them, take a look at the website first. They do not judge they just want to give all of us women, in whichever side of the adoption line you are, the best chance and support.





    About the father. I am NOT a lawyer but this said here are my 2 cents.


    I am going to be pretty blunt, IF you are 100% sure he is the father, you CAN leagally have him take a paternity test. He has to comply. If he DOES NOT WANT TO DO IT, in most states the judge may order directly for him to pay full child support, until the child is 18. Or at least in your case some expenses until you put the baby up for adoption.





    You would have to look for /some organization that can represent you legally with no cost to you or a lwayer acting pro bono. as hiring any laywer can be very costly, perhaps also check your City/State Assistance or some Women organization/Lawyers in your town/state that help unwed mothers ';pro bono'; , that means they will represent you for Free, as a volunteer for people who can not affor legal counsel.


    You may want to check this site's forum on Paternity Law, you may also post questions there and lawyers will answer them :


    http://www.expertlaw.com/forums/forumdis鈥?/a>





    I wish you the best of luckPregnant by married man/manager...advice?!?!?
    well if possible and you want to keep the child he will have to pay child support and he will be ordered to do a paternity test to prove he is the father as that is how it is done then when they say it is his he will have to pay child support but as to paying for your son well he has no responsibility in that so i would not hide it cause if he is doing it with you on his wife he is doing to his wife with other people
    now he's not resposible for your other son who was paying childcare for him before you got pregnant but if i was you I would tell his wife about the whle pregnancy and you can also sue him for support and his wife since he want to play you like that
    I'm sure there are a few adoptive parents out there who would be willing to help you out financially %26amp; house you while you're pregnant provided you sign iron-clad paperwork that you won't reneg on your end of the deal (giving them the baby).
    Your pregnancy is a secret unless you tell people NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO RELEASE PERSONAL INFO%26gt; You can also have them sign a contact to keep it private. as for the father He is already claiming its not his kid and he can fight that till a paternity test is done and then depending on where you live he can fight you for the child. I know the reason why you are having the kid sucks but think you might need to think about the fact is its still your child alot of people have major regrets after giving the child up. GL in your choice
    omg, what a dirt bag ..i'm sorry you got involved with such a crap guy but I would tell his wife because it's not fair for her to be with someone who is unfaithful and is irresponsible. She might make him to the right thing by being by you side through all this. It takes two to get pregnant and you didn't do this to yourself so you shouldn't have to deal with it alone. Tell him he can help you with support or his wife will be informed lol


    as for adoption ...speak to a local agency and make sure you really have time to think about all this because you might feel differently when you actually have the baby!! good luck with everything!!!
    There isn't much you can make him do and if you push it, you could be in danger. The adoption agency can probably help you out. I hope that you aren't making this decision based on him. Make sure that you are doing this with the best intentions. Giving a child to a couple that cannot have children is very noble, but there is serious consequences for all. Adopted children always have a feeling of abandonment. If you already have a baby, you know the feelings you have right after giving birth. I'm not trying to talk you out of it by any means, but am just suggesting that you make sure that you are doing this in YOUR best interest and not the sperm donors.

    I need a man's advice, i am in love with someone and i told them and i havent heard back from them?

    ok so here is my deal i have had a friend w bene's for like 4 years and being a woman i fell in love with him. He knew how i felt before i have told him many many times. so a few days ago i asked him how he felt and i got a txt saying ';you know the deal ect'; i dont want to go into the whole thing! but ne way i was pretty nasty to him and said some mean things but then i apologized but still havent heard back from him. Now he works alot like 80 hours a week so its not unusual for him not to text me right back but i emailed him today and laid everything out for him and told him id give him time to think about it. I know he has feelings for me im just not sure what to do next. Should i not talk to him let him think things through? do you think hes mad cause i asked him how he felt about me? im so confused and i love this man. im 28 and hes 29I need a man's advice, i am in love with someone and i told them and i havent heard back from them?
    After seven days, give it up.I need a man's advice, i am in love with someone and i told them and i havent heard back from them?
    Just leave him alone.You probably will never hear from him again.He obviously doesn't want anymore than a friends/w/benefits or if he does he doesn't want it with you.Sorry.Good luck
    If he felt the same way about you he would not be putting it off.

    Asking an older man out....advice, please.?

    I know I have already asked this question. This is the last time, I promise :) Ok I am a 25 year old widow with two children ages 7 and 4. I have recently saw(not talked to or anything like that) a man that is around 38 years old. His children (15, 17) go to the same school as my son(It's a K-12). My dad helps coach basketball there and one of this guys daughters plays, so I see him often at the games. He is a well known man, seems super nice, hard working and not bad looking. There is just something about him that intrigues me. He has been divorced for about 10 years with no serious relationships since (i've asked around). What I need to know is.......how can I approach him? Any tips or pointers....I've never tried talking to an older guy. Do you think he would mind talking(or more in the future) to me at my age? I really want to make a good first impression. Thanks!Asking an older man out....advice, please.?
    i told you go for it and if doesnt respond look my way 38 and apperently not a bad catch..........best fish in the sea so to speak...........skipper.......hell now that i think of it forget him grab ya captain im always looking for a navigator to help me sail under the stars...........skipper, SKIPPER,SKIPPER,,,,,he's your man..........Asking an older man out....advice, please.?
    Just go up to him and say ';hi'; Then go from there. You'll be able to tell if he's interested.
    He's Gay.......
    I don't see why not.





    All you need is some sort of ice-breaker. If nothing else, start with ';Hi!';





    Good luck!
    im in my teens so i really dont know the kinda of advice you need but i have older cousins that help me on this with older guys.. just walk up to him and ask if he wants to go get pizza or coffee or just out to eat.. thats basiclly all i can say.. well i hope it helped and works out..

    Why are men who give dating advice to men to avoid gold diggers etc considered MISOGYNIST by women?

    a lot of male dating experts giving advice to men about how to avoid gold-diggers and how to get casual sex with women without making commitment and how to be the guy women really want etc, are considered to be MISOGYNIST.





    women often express their discomfort over such dating experts....








    but if female dating experts can give advice to women , why cant male experts give advice to men?Why are men who give dating advice to men to avoid gold diggers etc considered MISOGYNIST by women?
    I think they're only called misogynistic when they start saying most women are gold diggers or making offensive comments like that...





    Or something else that is quite rude or insults the intelligence of women.





    I tend to avoid ';dating experts'; though, male or female.Why are men who give dating advice to men to avoid gold diggers etc considered MISOGYNIST by women?
    I've seen some men's ';dating advice'; things like that, and remember finding that most of the advice the men writing them give is bad or terribly inaccurate for a majority of us... they were funny. Some things would actually only be accurate for a woman a guy shouldn't want to date in the first place.





    Telling someone to avoid gold-diggers is not misogynist. The funny part though, is if a woman wants a guy who has a lot of casual sex, doesn't commit, and has all kinds of women all over him, is probably the same kind of woman who likes a guy with money too.
    Because you guys ARE misogynists and the only thing you guys are expert at is projection, denial and blame. That and flipping patties at your McJob.





    Misogyny is a mental and social disease. Not all men suffer from the disease.





    MANY of the behaviors associated with anti-feminists are misogynistic and emotionally disturbed, not to be taken as representative of most normal healthy men. In fact, what law inforcement agencies, Universities, airlines, banks, etc. invested in research to reduce domestic terrorism and mass shootings find as a commonality among all serial killers and school / mall shooters is Internet misogynistic postings. The FBI, in a report about school shooters, which is pretty much an exclusive boy's club like serial killing, compiled a list of indicators for a potential school or mass shooter and these behaviors are actually expressed constantly here in YA Answers by anti-feminists:





    Low Tolerance for Frustration


    Poor Coping Skills


    Lack of Resiliency


    Failed Love Relationship


    Injustice Collector


    Signs of Depression


    Narcissism


    Alienation


    Dehumanizing Others


    Lack of Empathy


    Exaggerated Sense of Entitlement


    Attitude of Superiority


    Exaggerated or Pathological Need for Attention


    Externalizes Blame


    Masks Low Sel-Esteem


    Anger Management Problems


    Intolerance


    Inappropriate Humor


    Seeks to Manipulate Others


    Lack of Trust


    Closed Social Group


    Rigid and Opinionated


    Unusual Interest in Sensational Violence


    Fascination with Violence-Filled Entertainment


    Negative Role Models (such as D ick Matherson or Warren Farrell)
    First let me say how FINE Amanda looks in her pic.





    Secondly in answer to your question:





    ';Because you can't get a woman to sleep with you';
    you should use that debate on a first date! if she gets pissed off, shes a gold digger, if she's like hey, gold diggers are a waste of space she's a keeper!