Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Please help - I need your advice on this man...

I stupidly had an affair with a married man which ended a year ago and although for a while we remained friends, (only speaking on the phone) I decided in April of this year to stop all contact in order for both of us to get on with our lives.





He seems to text me once a month, saying 'not a day goes by when he does not think about me' and 'he would love me to get in touch', so far I have deleted his texts and have no intention of making further contact.





Thing is, I am beggining to wonder how long this will continue, I love my husband and made a mistake and now I want to work on my marriage and feel this other guy should be doing the same.





Do I continue to ignore him or ring and ask him to not contact me further?





I know I was completely in the wrong to start this affair, so please no telling me what a silly cow I have been.Please help - I need your advice on this man...
You need to have a new phone number for starters. Also you need to not have any contact with him whatsoever. He probably feels that you got involved with him once so it should be easy for him to talk you into it again!! If you call him to ask him to not contact you he just may think it's because you are vulnerable and can't resist him. Just cut all ties. It's nice that you are trying to work on your marriage but it's probably stressful as well with this guy texting you and you having to try and keep everything from the affair quiet. Good Luck.Please help - I need your advice on this man...
I don't think there's too much you can do. I'm glad that you've come to your senses tho :) People make mistakes and we pay for them. You are now paying for yours unfortunately. I would continue to ignore his texts, think about changing your number. If he lives in the same town, you need to think about possibly running into him somewhere. That's something really hard to keep from your husband. You may even want to think about coming clean. I wish you the best.
I would call him and reiterate your need and want to be with your husband.


I would nicely ask him to stop calling because you are trying to put this period behind you.


Hopefully he is not a stalker and calls your husband. You may have to be honest with your husband and confess, as you may need his help to get rid of this guy if he does not stop calling.



The next time he texts you, text him back telling him to ';STOP IT';! Let it clearly be known to him that it is OVER. Tell him that your in love with your husband and your working hard at your marriage now. Tell him that he is the last person you will ever have an affair with and just tell him it was plain stupid on your part to have pursued it.
i would block his number on your cell. does he know where you live? does he know where you work? i ask this because hell sometimes has no fury like a psycho scorned. he might drive by your job, your house, or decide to narc you out to your husband. you might want to prepare for that fact or consider coming clean. it's gonna be better coming from you, than from your husband hearing intimate details of the sex with you, from this other guy.
If you ring him, he will get you all fuzzed up again. Ignore him. If possible, ';loose'; your cell phone and get a new one. But please, don't talk to him ever again. He had a way of talking himself into your life, and he can do it again in a heartbeat. Don't risk it.
You were a silly Cow. Does your husband know? Maybe you should tell him. Do you love this other guy or was it just about the sex? If you know what you want go for it but don't lead your husband to believe that you really meant the vows you stated on your wedding day when you don't.
Keep deleting his messages %26amp; ring your mobile provider today and ask for a new number. They do it for free. If you hubby asks why you changed the number, say you kept getting junk texts and stuff on it - premium rate ones etc and you don't know why.





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Lets be honest: **** happens. I would say, you write him a goodbye message saying like you wanna live your life and he should live his or so... If you really feel like he's stalking you, tell your husband. If he loves you, he'll understand and help you out of this mess.
simple...change ur no. and all the communicable details and have a deep sigh of relief..dun ever answer up any of texts or calls..sure u will change ur mind if u start to listen him....sobe awre of it..nd try not to do the same mistak again...
How ridiculous ! ...... get yourself a new ID


so he can't make anymore calls to you, do what you


have to , to get this with your other phone and make some


excuse.
What you need to do is block his # Completely!





I hope you told your Husband about your Affair!
just ignore him. any contact with him is just going to give him a glimmer of hope that he can get with you again. focus on your relationship with your husband
block his number or change yours, make no more contact with him leave him in your past, good luck
JUST TOTALLY IGNORE HIM. plus on the off chance your hubby doesn't know and you think this man may decide to let your hubby know if he doesn't already some howI would fill hiim in if he doesn't know and he finds out through someone else that may cause bigger problems but on the same hand if you tell him yourself it will still cause problems but maybe not as bad if he did hear it from someone else, or if he doesn't know you could go down the roadand not say anything hoping everything will be fine and the man won't take it any further
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