Long question pleas help, strong women, could you give me some advice please? man trouble?

basically i was 'the other woman,' and though my guy had a son to his original girlfriend, they were not married, and he implied they were not together in the past but rather had just gotten together recently before i came along. i had no intention of falling in love with this man, but after 6 months of us being together i really have, and though i know the right thing to do is to leave him, i really dont have the strength to do it, it is not an option because i am in love with him.





The thing is, it seems to me he is still with this woman; he only meets me once a week and we dont chat during the week though i would like to, but i like to test him, see if he texts,) it seems hes with this other girl still, though he told me about 2 months ago he broke up with her (i'd waited,) but i mean he's lied to me a couple of times its a long story but lots of things really suggest hes still with her, shes even the wallpaper open his phone. Hes never taken me out properly, only bought me a coffee, he wants me to move in with him an though i would love to, i dont believe he really does, im worried hes tagging me along but really wants to be with her. im sick of his inconsistancy, hes made me almost suicidal, bu never been mean he supports me, the only person i n my life who has ever done that and i cant let go, but im sick of him clubbin every nightm, having no time for me and im 70% sure hes still with this woman. im 19 hes 29. please help i dont know what to do im not strong enough and i feel depressed and just want to die i know that sounds stupid but please help,





serious answers only please





TY much appreciated xxLong question pleas help, strong women, could you give me some advice please? man trouble?
ok.. basically if a guy REALLY loves you and wants to be with you he will move heaven and earth to do so! its harder when kids are involved and maybe he is having a hard time leaving his child.. but you need to sit him down and set it straight! the fact that you are showing him that you are a strong person who doesn't NEED a man, will show him you mean business! if he comes back and says he cant live without you and leave the other woman.. then go right ahead! but watch your back and stay strong :)Long question pleas help, strong women, could you give me some advice please? man trouble?
I'm sorry to say this, but he is using you. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Have some strength and get rid of him!
Please try and find the strength to walk away from this relationship. He doesn't love you, he doesn't respect you, he doesn't spend any time with you, he has no loyalty toward you, he isn't honest with you, you don't trust him! What more do you need to know? I don't think that you do love him - I think that you're frightened of being alone. Go and see a professional about your lack of self esteem. No woman should have so little self esteem that they become a doormat. Please see someone before things get even worse.
K well first of all..you have to think of a few things


1. if he does want to be with you do you think you can handle being a mother at 19 cause i guarantee you will have to start because i doubt he will stop his clubbing ways and it sounds like he isn't caring for his son either


2. do you fee like you cant get anyone else because you definitely can someone with no baggage


3 i know letting go of someone you love is hard but sometimes in order to see if they're really into you you have to let them be on their own and if he doesn't come back then you know he's just dragging you on


4. It's called the 80-20 rule he currently has an 80 meaning the woman who has his child..holds him down..and will be with him when he screws up and she knows he will..and sadly you're the 20 the one who looks amazing single life and has everything going for her, but sadly he's gonna go back to his 80 every time.


i don't mean to hurt your feelings but yea that's my opinion anyways %26lt;3 good luck


xoxo
tell him what you feel, there's nothing worst than waiting on a guy when he's messing you around. well if he has no time for you then he doesn't love you that much? say to him'; i don't wanna be a thing on the side, if your not gonna respect me, then this relationship is over'; get yourself out there! go join a club, do new sports! find out new things and meet new people, go out with friends and family- all this should help you get over him.





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Girl, there is a ten year age difference there, that's problem number one. number two: He is still going out with a girl, supposedly, and she has had a child with him. Three: He never takes you out anywhere, but wants you to live with him. My dad asked a women he wasn't married to to live with him and later they got married, but they are about to divorce and it's barely been a year. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you with lots of love, and will be your age. You just have to find them. A few suggestions are religious guys, I'm a Mormon and all the guys are nice and loving for us, but that's just a suggestion... Being with a guy that makes you feel depressed and suicidal immediately makes him a definite NO. Good luck girl.